StellaA Posted October 16, 2011 Posted October 16, 2011 Your ex comes back to you and wants to give it another go. Your family and friends have seen you at your lowest and they are the ones we go to when it goes wrong. If i go back i will be letting them down. Do you risk it all, it's such a gamble.
TheDovic Posted October 16, 2011 Posted October 16, 2011 What's the gamble really here Stells? Your friends and family will be disappointed but they will support you. The absolute worst that could come out of this is they say "I told you so" if he dumps you again, but even at that they're likely to still be there for you!
Zabs Posted October 16, 2011 Posted October 16, 2011 Stella! I would shake you if I could! Stop ruminating and do something:mad:...you are driving yourself out of your mind with this push pull sitch babes... Only when you DO something will you know whether it feels right or not..you can be wrong a million times..you only have to be right once honey.. Coincidentally, I text my ex the other day ( as a result of my BP) because it incences me to think he thinks I don't know what's going on. I felt better after, but that was short lasting..and then I wished that I hadn't done anything at all...but then when I considered what I'd actually said...it was inconsequential after all. I am STILL holding ALL the cards and he knows it...but for me, each day that passes without him in it is another day that I care less about it and him. Long ass shi* but at least there is some direction now I guess..though my options remain the same. Perhaps you should switch off for a bit (as hard as I know that is) and enjoy your vacation..see how you feel upon return. As far as family goes, they are ALWAYS gonna be there for you honey. At the end of the day they just want you to be happy...like we do xx:cool: Much love Zabs xx
Author StellaA Posted October 16, 2011 Author Posted October 16, 2011 Guys....u r both totally right! my family will be there for me i know that...in a way it will be hard as he wont be welcome on family events but sometimes you have to cope with these things! im just thinking about 3 weeks away! :-) how are both of you? x
TheDovic Posted October 16, 2011 Posted October 16, 2011 Thanks for asking Stells. I'm not doing too bad, still confused but generally ok. My ex text again last night to tell me she wasn't going out (and hasn't been going out), but to call her if I need a lift home if I was going out. She said it didn't matter what time! I didn't respond because I am really confused still. Twice now in the past two weeks she has called at my house in tears and she keeps texting even if I don't respond. The difference between your ex and mine however is yours has admitted he was wrong and wants you back. Mine hasn't done this, even though her actions appear to be stating she's having second thoughts. Like your situation however, my friends and family would not be happy if I took her back, but I do believe they will support me with whatever happens. Are you any closer to making a decision? Have you been talking to him much?
Author StellaA Posted October 16, 2011 Author Posted October 16, 2011 Like u say....you have to make your own choices! i guess what is hard is i had to move back home so i need to find my own place. No, no nearer yet to a decision..i told him i have to concentrate on my trip and distance will do us both good to have time to think anx be sure. Do u want your ex back? what did she do?
Zabs Posted October 16, 2011 Posted October 16, 2011 I am quite well considering our Stella thanks I hope you use the time to think about what YOU want out of life...sack everything else, it is secondary..as far as fam goes..and this applies to youtoo Dovic, nobody wants to see a loved one bang their head on a wall over and over...one day the old head will crack...imagine the blood! LOL Jokes...but you know what I mean...youcould quite conceivably have a breakdown with such emotional batterings... Plus Dovic...don't be fooled...that is another way of ensuring you AIN'T out having the time of your life....she is wondering about you now...and sounds like she is plagued by thoughts of you being with others xx Z x
Author StellaA Posted October 16, 2011 Author Posted October 16, 2011 Yeah....i just had a call from a family member who wished me a good holiday but we also chatted and they said about my ex that it is my choice but as someone who cares they would stop me running in front of a bus if they could
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