Told its over but will be living together for next month, can relationship be saved?

[catnip7]

Hi i wonder if anyone can give me any advice on what i plan to do? I'm know if make a wrong bad move i will lose her.

 

I've been living with my gf for a year. She's been out of work for a nearly 2 months and a strain has been put on our relationship due money issues and we have argued quite a bit.

3 days ago my girlfriend announced she saw no future with us, she's not sure he can live with anyone, she wants to go away and do her own thing. I unfortunately broke down and made the usual mistake of pleading and i can make everything right etc. I won't be doing that again!

Thing is i love her and i don't want to lose her, i know i have made plenty of mistakes, taking her for granted, been stubborn, staying out to late drinking with my friends etc, i've just had trouble adjusting from leading a bachelor life style for so long before we moved in, that i ve only had to think about me.

We have often had petty arguments, although when we have, we never normally in a mood with each other for more than hour.

It isn't until you lose someone your realise how much you love them and you reflect on what stupid little things you have done.

 

Thing is we have to give a month's notice until we can move out so we could well be living together for a whole month.

Even though we have a spare room with a double, we are still sharing our bed in our main bedroom. We went out yesterday and had a nice day going to gallery, eating out, we held hands and we still kiss on the lips the morning and before bed and we still cuddle.

 

For our last month i am thinking of asking her if we can continue as we are just enjoy the last of the our time together and then we go our separate ways. I will be looking at getting my own place next week and will tell her that today.

I plan to offer to pay all bills and rent (she had money saved to for 3 months of living but she is not that great with money and managed to spend all of it in 6 weeks as i only discovered last week!) so she feels under no financial strain.

Over this period of time im going to put all my old bad bachelor habits to rest. Refrain from getting caught up in petty arguments. Just make our time a happy one. I'm hoping if she can see i can change and our relationship goes back to the good times before we moved in when we never argued and we enjoyed all time together.

 

Is this right thing to do, is there anything i should or shouldn't do?

 

Thanks for listening and any help appreciated

[ChelseaLS]

I feel for you. Relationships are awesome... until they hurt. (Why do they hurt? an underlying issue that has never been properly dealt with).

Neither of you are doing yourselves any favor by continuing on the way you are. You need to give each other space to think about your situations. I realize you both want to run to each other while you grieve (I would love to do that with my ex every moment of everyday), however that gives no one the time and space to figure out themselves and what is worth fighting for.

I understand one more month (believe me I am in the same situation in regards to that), I stay at friend and families or if I HAVE to say to here, I sleep in the spare room. Give them time and space, as you deserve your own. You may be surprised and want something different