Marianis Posted October 16, 2011 Posted October 16, 2011 Hello so.. today my friend called and she was crying she said her bf of like 3 years broke up with her ... im in a bad situation myself and i really want to help her! tomorrow ill see her but i dont know what to say!! .. i really really want to help her in this terrible time .. she has always been there for me and now this is my turn!! ahhh... i dont know what to say!! .. PLEASE HELP!!!
wilsonx Posted October 16, 2011 Posted October 16, 2011 Dont say anything just listen, you are further along in the process then they are and they will not listen to anything you have to say anyways Just be the friend that listens
geegirl Posted October 16, 2011 Posted October 16, 2011 Agree with Wilson. Just be a friend and listen. Sometimes that's all someone needs. Plus anything you say will go in one ear and out the other. Just comfort her by listening.
Author Marianis Posted October 16, 2011 Author Posted October 16, 2011 should i avoid talking about that guy?! .. like when i broke up with my ex .. my friends didnt want me to talk about him at all.. and they just changed the subject! ... so should i just joke around ... ill take her to have some tequila shots!! .. naaa just joking
sadprincess Posted October 16, 2011 Posted October 16, 2011 you know what hurt is...she'll know u can relate to her. sucky situation for all...but when put in this position, feels less lonely of a world when someone close to you can be there for you and you be there for her. like what everyone said, listen. hug. go out for a good meal. and a non-romantic movie.
geegirl Posted October 16, 2011 Posted October 16, 2011 she'll be doing all the talking and crying. just listen and let her vent.
ChelseaLS Posted October 16, 2011 Posted October 16, 2011 I agree with most of the advice that is being given. However from my own experiences I wanted an answer which obviously no one has. So instead of just listening give ideas on how to cope. Reassure that it get better with time... Time heals all. Listening is fantastic, but they will be looking for answers or understanding on their situation. Don't think you need to provide answers but provide ways to cope, positive ones. Life's a garden, dig it.
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