Ladies: If you asked a guy "when was the last time you dated?" and he said "never"...

[fortyninethousand322]

Oh, I would never call attention to the fact that he's inexperienced, even if I could tell. I wouldn't want to make him feel bad. Besides, I've kissed a few guys who did have experience, and their past girlfriends definitely didn't teach them how to kiss properly! It happens.

 

When I was younger, I didn't mind showing the guy how to improve his technique (I never said anything, I just used positive/negative reinforcement until he got it right). But now I'm at an age where I feel like guys should know the basics and I really don't feel like being a teacher anymore. If he's a bad kisser, I don't even care what the reason is. Whether it's because he's inexperienced or not, makes no difference to me. It's just hard for me to enjoy the experience, so I don't have much patience for it anymore.

 

May I ask how old you are now, and at what age you started preferring men who know how to kiss?

[Cypress25]

May I ask how old you are now, and at what age you started preferring men who know how to kiss?

 

I'm 25 (I'll be 26 next week) and I've always preferred men who know how to kiss, but when I was younger, I was more understanding of guys who didn't. I was like "It's OK, he's still young, he hasn't had that much experience..." etc. But once I'd been with a few guys who were great kissers, I realized that other guys couldn't use their age as an excuse anymore. This was probably around age 22. It's not that I expected 22-year-old guys to have a ton of experience, but there are some obvious mistakes you shouldn't make, even if you have no experience at all. It's more about being old enough to know better.

 

And I feel like I've already paid my dues, patiently tolerating bad kissers, giving them a chance to improve. I don't want to do that for the rest of my life. I'd like to be able to enjoy kissing too, ya know?

[AHardDaysNight]

May I ask how old you are now, and at what age you started preferring men who know how to kiss?

 

If she's just 25, I'm going to scream.

[fortyninethousand322]

I'm 25 (I'll be 26 next week) and I've always preferred men who know how to kiss, but when I was younger, I was more understanding of guys who didn't. I was like "It's OK, he's still young, he hasn't had that much experience..." etc. But once I'd been with a few guys who were great kissers, I realized that other guys couldn't use their age as an excuse anymore. This was probably around age 22. It's not that I expected 22-year-old guys to have a ton of experience, but there are some obvious mistakes you shouldn't make, even if you have no experience at all. It's more about being old enough to know better.

 

And I feel like I've already paid my dues, patiently tolerating bad kissers, giving them a chance to improve. I don't want to do that for the rest of my life. I'd like to be able to enjoy kissing too, ya know?

 

I see. I'm not trying to tell you that you should date bad kissers, I'm just getting a frame of reference. I'm 23 so a little younger than you but not by much.

 

Is there a way to learn how to be a better kisser (you know without actually kissing because I don't think that's going to happen anytime soon)? Should I try to pay someone to let me practice with them? I'm half serious on the second idea. I just don't want to get to a point where I'm "unemployable" you know?

[Cypress25]

If she's just 25, I'm going to scream.

 

Listen dude, it has nothing to do with level of experience. If a guy is inexperienced but he's still a good kisser, then I don't care if he's never kissed a girl before. And if a guy is experienced but he's still a bad kisser, then I probably wouldn't be interested in him.

 

Just because you have no experience doesn't mean you'll be bad at it. You could be a natural. Not everyone is bad at kissing the first time they do it. It's not very complicated.

[Cypress25]

Is there a way to learn how to be a better kisser (you know without actually kissing because I don't think that's going to happen anytime soon)?

 

I'm glad you asked! Yes, there is a way. Read about it. I know that sounds ridiculous because you probably think you can't learn anything without real-life experience, but you can. This kind of advice is all over the Internet. Just Google "bad kissers" and you'll find a ton of info on what NOT to do. Another good resource is AskMen.com. The only reason there are so many bad kissers out there is because they never bothered to do their research.

[fortyninethousand322]

I'm glad you asked! Yes, there is a way. Read about it. I know that sounds ridiculous because you probably think you can't learn anything without real-life experience, but you can. This kind of advice is all over the Internet. Just Google "bad kissers" and you'll find a ton of info on what NOT to do. Another good resource is AskMen.com. The only reason there are so many bad kissers out there is because they never bothered to do their research.

 

Oh ok. So it is something you can learn about through research and such. I was worried it was something you could only learn about "hands on".