Ladies: If you asked a guy "when was the last time you dated?" and he said "never"...

[ptp]

i would try to but i'm a smoker so i may not make it

 

lmao

 

So you would run away if a chick told you she was a virgin?

[iris219]

You didn't answer my question. When have you gotten rejected by a woman who went instead for the kind of guy in the pic you posted?

[alphamale]

So you would run away if a chick told you she was a virgin?

trust me, i don't have the time nor patience to teach a virgin the sexual ropes. and anyways i've already banged a couple of younger virgins (not independently confirmed however)

[AHardDaysNight]

You didn't answer my question. When have you gotten rejected by a woman who went instead for the kind of guy in the pic you posted?

 

It has happened twice.

 

The most memorable one, I was dancing with her at a party, and was "this close" to getting her number! She was giving me all kinds of vibes, that she liked me that way.

 

Then comes along some douchebag, who introduced himself to her, me, and the rest of our group. He said he just thought we looked like a bunch of interesting people, but that girl's attention went right onto him, and 15 mins later, they both disappear. She went home with him.

 

The next time I see her, she gives me the cold shoulder, and she deletes my friendship from Facebook.

[iris219]

It has happened twice.

 

The most memorable one, I was dancing with her at a party, and was "this close" to getting her number! She was giving me all kinds of vibes, that she liked me that way.

 

Then comes along some douchebag, who introduced himself to her, me, and the rest of our group. He said he just thought we looked like a bunch of interesting people, but that girl's attention went right onto him, and 15 mins later, they both disappear. She went home with him.

 

The next time I see her, she gives me the cold shoulder, and she deletes my friendship from Facebook.

 

And this happened recently?

 

Being rejected twice is nothing! It's so insignificant that it doesn't really count, and it certainly doesn't prove that girls pick douchebags over quiet, nice guys like yourself. It seems like you're looking for reasons not to put yourself out there and try to date.

[The Tiger]

And this happened recently?

 

Being rejected twice is nothing! It's so insignificant that it doesn't really count, and it certainly doesn't prove that girls pick douchebags over quiet, nice guys like yourself. It seems like you're looking for reasons not to put yourself out there and try to date.

 

Yeah you can't let one mean cunt take you out of the game for good.

 

You're too legit to quit.

[alphamale]

unless you're into it having sex with a virgin is waaaay over-rated - it's like going for a ride with a 15 yo who has a learners permit

[AHardDaysNight]

I'm not quitting, exactly. But I'm not putting myself out there, either.

[KR10N]

If asked that question, I would quote JFK "those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the future."

[runner]

I guess I mean I get turned down by girls for guys that look like this:

 

http://www.insidesocal.com/outinhollywood/aaaaaaaaclint.jpg

 

i'm sorry but based on looks alone, this guy kinda seems like a hipster douche obvously could be the nicest, greates guy in the world, but i digress

 

I have no clue who that guy is, and I don't care. But I will never look like that.

 

good for you. i like you already

 

whenever i get this question, i'm always ambiguous about it. doesn't matter if i was on my last date last night or last year; it's no one's ****ing business. if she starts being rudely nosey about it i'll turn the tables on her.

[AHardDaysNight]

Good point, runner. It's nobody's business.

 

I suppose I should say to that, "What about you?"

[Cypress25]

No one will ask when you had your first kiss or when you lost your virginity. Adults don't generally talk about this.

 

Seriously. It would weird me out if someone asked me those questions, especially on the first few dates. It wouldn't even cross my mind to ask a guy about his first kiss or losing his virginity.

 

I don't think anyone will ask when you last dated either. It's considered impolite to ask about a person's dating history on the first few dates. Once a guy asked me (on the first date) when my last relationship was, and I thought that was rude and inappropriate. He'd also spent a good portion of the date talking about his exes and asking me about mine, so he was already in the category of "rude and inappropriate."

[runner]

standard ambiguous reply: "well ya know- dating is what it is. sometimes good, sometimes bad. ... if anything i don't really care about 'dating' and making a big deal out of it; i just go out and have a good time, and i pretty much do that everyday."

 

next topic.

[Cracker Jack]

When you say you're not "putting yourself out there", are you only referring to your current actions, or do you mean you're not going to do it at all?

[iris219]

Why are you worrying prematurely? It's just causing you unnecessary stress and negatively affecting your self esteem. When you actually have a date set up, then you can worry (some) and we'll try to help alleviate your fears. Until then, stop dwelling on situations that haven't happened yet.

 

Sometimes I think you like the fear you induce with your "what if" scenarios, or you like that the continuous fear justifies you not putting yourself out there, hence allowing you to remain in your comfort zone.

[Duckduckgoose]

AHDN,

 

I've known a guy for a while, we're pretty good friends... and have kind of decided to take things farther.

 

Well some things weren't adding up so I asked him and found out FLAT out that's he's got NO relationship experience. NONE. No kissing, no sex, no nothing.

 

I, on the other hand, have had several boyfriends, and am divorced. He's a few years older than me (I'm 28).

 

I was seriously put off when I found that out. But my dad told me that it was a big step for him to tell me that, and to want to take things farther.

 

I have thought about cutting and running, but I appreciate his honestly, and I really care for him and like him as a person. He also seems like a really good guy.

 

I have to take things at HIS pace though, which is MUCH slower than my own, but you know what? I respect him a lot more for not trying to get me in bed as fast as he can. I don't like how naive he can be, and I know I'm going to have to "learn" him a LOT of things... but if everything pans out then I know I'm going to have a loyal guy.

 

Not to mention one without baggage.

 

You're just gonna have to find a patient girl. Don't get discouraged.

[alphamale]

I have thought about cutting and running, but I appreciate his honestly, and I really care for him and like him as a person. He also seems like a really good guy.

no, he meant he had never kissed or had sex/relationship with a woman...draw your own conclusion

[AHardDaysNight]

no, he meant he had never kissed or had sex/relationship with a woman...draw your own conclusion

 

That's a bunch of bull****.

 

I have always been attracted to women, only women. The thought of gay sex turns my stomach.

 

The reason for my inexperience isn't because I'm gay, although everyone in my family seems to assume so. If I was gay...well, I wouldn't be a virgin, now would I?

[Duckduckgoose]

no, he meant he had never kissed or had sex/relationship with a woman...draw your own conclusion

 

I LOL'd so hard at this.

 

No, he's straight. AHDN probably is too. I had mentioned homosexuality in passing to the guy, and he looks at me like he's disgusted.

 

Plus, I have a few gay male friends that will very quickly let me know if a guy I am looking at or "talking to" has the slightest shred of gay in them. He passed all the tests lol

[AHardDaysNight]

I LOL'd so hard at this.

 

No, he's straight. AHDN probably is too. I had mentioned homosexuality in passing to the guy, and he looks at me like he's disgusted.

 

Plus, I have a few gay male friends that will very quickly let me know if a guy I am looking at or "talking to" has the slightest shred of gay in them. He passed all the tests lol

 

I was hit on by a gay guy once.

 

I was flattered, but I was like...what am I supposed to do with that?

 

Anal sex also disgusts me, so it's not like I would be doing anything sexual with a guy. I like the vagina.

[Duckduckgoose]

AHDN one thing I will warn you about.

 

An experienced chick is going to pick up on your "innocence" pretty quickly. She might be confused at first, and will probably ask what's up. Don't lie. That's a bad way to start, and once you start getting intimate with her... she WILL know you were lying.

 

They are gonna appreciate your honesty much more than you trying to cover it up like you're ashamed.

[AHardDaysNight]

Well, I've said this before (and to my therapist, too)...

 

I would be fine with either of these scenerios:

 

A.) Both of us are virgins, and we teach ourselves everything and learn everything together

B.) She is aware that I'm a virgin and inexperienced, she doesn't care, and she is willing to teach me how to be a good boyfriend.

 

Obviously, A is very unlikely, especially at my age. So I'm stuck with B.

[AHardDaysNight]

And I've been watching porn since I was 12. I am FAR from innocent!

[alphamale]

And I've been watching porn since I was 12. I am FAR from innocent!

every guy does that

[OnyxSnowfall]

every guy does that

 

Damn them.