Whattodo1980 Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 I have been w my partner for 9yrs. We have just bought a new home, he is totally pedantic on, way over the top incase things get scratched... Over exaggerates, harps and harps. That's just an insight. I don't have the desire to have sex, kiss or cuddle him. He annoys me at the moment. He is not happy within himself which doesn't help. I don't know why I just don't break up with him... The things that cross my mind is that all relationships have issues and I will just go from one **** to another. What is considered normal for A relationship after this long??
january2011 Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 (edited) In my experience, after nine years, most couples settle into some kind of routine in terms of relationship habits and know each other well. Though there are varying levels of love, care, shared social activity, intimacy, etc. between couples. That is, it really depends on the couple. Given the financial 'contract' that you've both entered into and the time spent, I think that you at least owe it to yourselves to try to find a way to make this work before giving up. Start a line of communication. Find a compromise regarding how you live in the house - you've both got to live there and be happy. If he's not happy within himself, perhaps he might benefit from talking to a health professional. Given that you don't feel any urge to initiate physical contact with him, it sounds like the emotional bond between the two of you could be damaged. Another step might also be couples counselling. But first talk to him. Be open and honest about how you are feeling. Find out how he's feeling and whether or not he is open to working on the relationship. Edited October 15, 2011 by january2011
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