sweet_girl_gina Posted May 17, 2004 Posted May 17, 2004 I AM 24 MY BOYFRIEND IS MUCH OLDER ,ACTUALLY THE SAME AGE AS MY MOM, 50. I'M STARTING TO THINK THE AGE THING IS BECOMING AN ISSUE. I WAS VERY UNCOMFORTABLE WITH IT WHEN OUR RELATIONSHIP 1ST STARTED , THIS 4TH OF JULY WILL BE OUR 4TH YEAR TOGETHER. IN THE BEGINNING I WAS ALWAYS WORRIED ABOUT WHAT EVERYONE ELSE THOUGHT. BESIDES THIS WE ARE ALSO A BI- RACIAL COUPLE. I'M HISPANIC HE'S AFRICAN AMERICAN. LUCKILY BOTH OF OUR FAMILIES SUPPORT US. THEY ACTUALLY THINK WE ARE GREAT FOR EACH OTHER. EVEN MINE " the traditional Latin American family". NOW I FEEL LIKE I NEED SOME TIME FROM HIM, HE IS GETTING OLDER AND DOESN'T FEEL LIKE GOING OUT ANYMORE AND SPENDING TIME TOGETHER. I THINK HE FEELS LIKE HE'S ALREADY LIVED MOST HIS LIFE, AND HAD HIS FUN. HE'S READY TO SETTLE DOWN WITH ME. NOW THAT WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 4 YEARS, I FEEL LIKE I DIDN'T GET TO LIVE MY LIFE. I FEEL THAT I NEED SOME TIME TO GO OUT AND LIVE THE LIFE ANY NORMAL 20 YEAR OLD GIRL WOULD HAVE LIVED.
calna Posted May 17, 2004 Posted May 17, 2004 I think whether he was 50 or 20.. you'd still have felt the same way. My ex-bf is same age as me (23).. We were together for over 4 years but recently I felt like I needed time to live my life as well. I called it quits a few weeks ago.. Being alone is hard.. but it feels sooo good to be independent for once. Good luck to ya.
LILUIL Posted May 18, 2004 Posted May 18, 2004 ask yourself why you two hooked up in the first place and how was age not questioned then but only now 4 years later. your story doesnt reveal much but you have the answers. maybe its not the end of the road, well if you love him and have the support of your parents, i dont see where exactly the issue is coming from.... NOW I FEEL LIKE I NEED SOME TIME FROM HIM, HE IS GETTING OLDER AND DOESN'T FEEL LIKE GOING OUT ANYMORE AND SPENDING TIME TOGETHER. I THINK HE FEELS LIKE HE'S ALREADY LIVED MOST HIS LIFE, AND HAD HIS FUN. sounds like premarrital fears. does he know how you feel? wondering if him being sickly the reason he's not up to going out anymore.... if it is, are you willing to love this man and take care of him for the rest of his/your life.
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