afterone Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 Okay, I broke up with my ex over 5 years ago, but I'm still in love with her. I broke up with her coz I was angry (a friend of hers and mine, said she wasn't being faithful, I didn't know if the friend was telling the truth or not, and I didn't know who to believe, long story). Anyway, at that moment, I felt good coz I wasn't stressed out anymore with the current situation. During our time apart, she contacted me trying to get back, but I ignored her coz I was still too angry and I needed space, a lot of space. Eventually I decided just to let her go. After a month passed, I started to miss her again, and I was now the one trying to get her attention and trying to get her back. But this time, she also decided that she was moving on, and she did. She eventually had a new bf after 5 months after our break up. So with that being said, we never had a chance to talk about our break up and get closure for both of us. I have not contacted her after that ever since. But, she will randomly contact me every 2 or 3 months saying hi, and we would have very short conversations (through text). Mainly just asking how is everything, that's about it. This would go on for about a year and a half. I really didn't like the small conversations coz it made me miss her more, I also couldn't stop myself from responding to her every contact. Okay, so another year passed, and I've learned to let my feelings for her go and just accept that she's no longer in love with me. So, everything was ok now, until one day when we saw each other. I was at friends house just hanging out. I was upstairs with my friends when suddenly the door bell rang. So my friend went downstairs to open the door for the other visitors, while I stayed upstairs. After 10 mins, I decided to go downstairs to get a drink. When I got downstairs, I was very shock to see her. My heart was racing, butterflies in my stomach and all that crazy emotional thing was occurring within me. But of course I tried to play it cool, which I did. But she on the other hand couldn't. She apparently knew I was upstairs and tried to hide, but she couldn't in time. I decided to go up to her to say hi, also gave her a kiss on the cheek, and that's when I noticed. She was also feeling the same way as me (shaking, nervous, her emotions was also running crazy). After a minute, she immediately decided to leave right away (ran to her car). After she left, she immediately sent me a message, saying it was nice to see you blah blah blah and that was it, didn't hear from her again. Anyway, my friends saw everything and they all agreed and could tell that she still wasn't over me. Now for me, I was back to being confused, coz she still had a bf and I thought she was over me. After seeing her that day all my feelings for her also started to come back and man this was annoying. So to forget all this drama, I decided to move away. After a year, I was getting close to let everything go. I just told myself to not care anymore. But one day I get a text from her again. We talked about how we were doing, then she suddenly mentions to me that she was single. I asked what happened, and she immediately blamed me saying that I didn't accept her for who she was, and that it was all my fault for us breaking up blah blah. I tried to talk to explain in my attempt to talk about our past to get closure, but she never replied back. Half a month passed and no contact from her. This time I now decided to tell myself that if she contacts me this very week then this would mean that she still has feelings for me and I have to get her back, and if she doesn't contact me this week, then I would have to forget her and that she's not the one for me. Well, she did contact me this week. So now I'm thinking that I really should start calling her again or something I don't know. I am so confused. I need advice from a woman, tell me what this woman is feeling/thinking/and wants. I'm just venting here. I wonder if anyone here experienced something similar, and if so, what did you do? Thanks.
Forever Learning Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 If she is texting you, it means she still likes you. Especially after all this time. Start up the dialogue again and see where it goes. Good luck.
M2155 Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 I never experienced lingering feelings for someone this long but of course seeing them after a long time can strike up old feelings. Sounds like you should talk to her next time she contacts you to see if she is serious. But caution on this response. She's blaming you for her still being single? She's got to take responsiblity too. We talked about how we were doing, then she suddenly mentions to me that she was single. I asked what happened, and she immediately blamed me saying that I didn't accept her for who she was, and that it was all my fault for us breaking up blah blah. I tried to talk to explain in my attempt to talk about our past to get closure, but she never replied back
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