gymgirl77 Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 My bf of 2 years has recently come clean and told me he was looking on craigs list for another man to join us in the bedroom for one night. He works away from home, 2 weeks out 1 week home. We have had talks about other people being brought into out relationship when we first started seeing each other and the feeling was mutual that no way no how. The day before he was to come home he blurted it out to me over bbm. I was shocked, angry, hurt, disgusted to say the least. He had even gone as far as to finding someone, exchanging emails, pictures you name it. All without my knowledge. Of course once it sank in my head for awhile I started to think he must have looked for more than just that on casual encounters. I had never been on that site in my life until after he told me. I looked, I was appauled at what was on there. He also revealed that he did reply to a couple of ads and it was because he got caught up in them when he was looking for a third wheel. Also that he just wanted to feel wanted again. I didn't even know there was a problem with us. I had also recently become sick, not sick where I can't function but enough where my place of employment laid me off due to medical reasons and I have been back and forth to doctors trying to figure out the problem. That being said I haven't at all been myself. I've been pretty grumpy, not feeling good most days and truly just focused on me and what's going on with my health. Once he revealed all this craigs list bs to me he finally opened up and said that I don't show him that he's wanted, needed, appreciated ect. I sat back and thought about what he was saying and he was absolutely right. If he even tried to give me a hug, I'd get mad and push him away. I didn't even realize I was doing it and it certainly wasn't intentional. He figured that he wasn't giving me what I wanted and somehow figured that another man must be what the problem is and that he would rather give me what he thought I wanted as opposed to losing me which he also thought was happening. He came home the next day and he cried I am still crying. A couple hrs later I heard his cell go off. I checked it and it was a reply back to him from someone on that **** site. I was instantly angered, I smashed his cell and kicked him out. I let him come home a couple days later but I am not at all ok with any of it. I know men are different but come on!!! Craigs list??? Hookers!!!! I know he didn't cheat but to me the thought and the action was definitely there. The only thing that is making me want to fix this is the fact that he did indeed come and tell me. He didn't get caught, I didn't have suspicion anything like that and he very well could of kept doing it for awhile without getting caught. He's now back at work with no cell this time and we are not talking very much because of it. I am relieved that he doesn't have it because then I'd just be making myself sick that he was on that crap again. I can't stand cheaters, I have no use for them and no respect what so ever. If you want to be a whore, then be a whore single. Don't be wreckless with other peoples lives and hearts. Anyway I don't really have a question, just needed a place to let it out and any thoughts would be muchly appreciated!! Thanks!
mike111 Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 This guy you are with is super bad medicine. And craigs is the bottom of the pond as far as finding "someone" else goes. Really shocking that he would do this. You might want to consider asking him to leave again. Just my thoughts and opinion on this. mike
Author gymgirl77 Posted October 15, 2011 Author Posted October 15, 2011 Thanks!! Those were almost my exact words to him....bottom feeding
mike111 Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 And remember, your health, safety and security and piece of mind are the most important here. He's pretty much put that all at risk. But good for you for being super assertive and not letting him get away with it. Smashing his phone was also a nice touch. He deserved that majorly. Was it like a really expensive Iphone? mike
Author gymgirl77 Posted October 15, 2011 Author Posted October 15, 2011 lmao! It was a blackberry but none the less it was mainly for us to keep in contact with each with him being away from home so much. Not being a freak while he's supposed to be working and I'm at home trying to get healthy. Think you know people and BOOM! I feel like I've been with a stranger now.
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