Onlyjonley Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 I do this often and I hate it. I have a couple friends in great relationships and I'm way happy for them. And ever since, I've thought to myself "I want something as great as that someday." I've been with my boyfriend now for going on 5 months. He's a great guy and he really does mean well. He hadn't had a girlfriend before me in about 3.5 years so he has had to get used to getting back in the groove of a relationship and realizing he has someone else to worry about. Sometimes I find myself comparing our relationship to others and thinking "well her boyfriend does this for her and treats her this way. Why can't mine? He must not really care." I hate that. I want to be happy with my boy and appreciate what we have without comparing it to others. And plus, you never know what's going on behind closed doors in other relationships.
WhiteChocolate Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 (edited) I'm sure lots of other people do it. However, if you have a habit of doing so, then it would be a good habit to break. At least you recognize it within yourself. One of the things I do is to think of something great within the relationship. Then just start fantasizing...I get carried away pretty quickly. Another thing I do is to do what I wish my SO did. So if I see a bf of my friend's bringing her a cupcake and flowers, I do the same for my SO. Because it is cute and it shows that I care. And I still get the pleased reaction. And just tease, "It's your turn next week!" And eventually he'll get the hint as to what you want. Edited October 15, 2011 by WhiteChocolate added 3rd paragraph.
Pasttense Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 I think a great many people compare their relationship to that of their parents.
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