stargirl259 Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 Hi everyone, first time posting on here... I broke up with my bf a week today and am still really struggling to the point I rang him up today to have a chat and to try and talk about the breakup. I'll explain our background before saying about the chat. He asked me out 9 years ago when we were at school but I struggled with the fact he liked me that at the time I said no. We both entered into another relationships but we realised at the start of this year that we both loved each other and that we wanted to be together. So we started into a relationship with both of us promising each other things. I am asian and him english so we've had to keep things quiet because of my parents but I was applying for jobs to be closer to him and was ready to leave my parents to be with him. (You only have one chance at life). Last week, his grandad fell ill and his mum also fell ill, both with cancer and his workload at work increased meaning he couldn't cope with anything. He phoned me up to talk to me and I asked him if he was breaking up with me, he said no but towards the end said yes I want to remove the label because I am putting pressure on you with trying to get you to move up quickly. He said I am still in love with you and you are my soul mate but the time isn't right for us and I hope you understand. I still want you badly but can't keep putting you under that pressure. I am so confused, I applied for so many jobs in the area near him, that I have received a few job interviews for. (Better paid jobs then I am currently earning, but am scared I am petrified of moving up and then being alone). I spoke to him today and he still maintains that he loves me and believes he's my soul mate and the timing is wrong. He believes I should go up for the job interview and see how I get on with it and see what happens. At the moment, my head is in such a mess because I love him and want to be with him so badly. I just wonder whether I can fall in love again and whether it will be with him or someone new. Sorry this is so long, I just need to talk to someone. Thanks x
Author stargirl259 Posted October 15, 2011 Author Posted October 15, 2011 I do need a hug, it hurts so much and I don't know what he really thinks and I don't know what I think.
antz2411 Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 as a loving person you should always show support which you are doing. a good deed is never gone unnoticed and is always returned 1000 times better than you can imagine. thats really up to you. im not saying you're not doing good deeds because you are just by trying to understand his situation, but its really up to you to either step it up more or stay as you are. either way im sure it already has been noticed :=)
Author stargirl259 Posted October 15, 2011 Author Posted October 15, 2011 as a loving person you should always show support which you are doing. a good deed is never gone unnoticed and is always returned 1000 times better than you can imagine. thats really up to you. im not saying you're not doing good deeds because you are just by trying to understand his situation, but its really up to you to either step it up more or stay as you are. either way im sure it already has been noticed :=) Thanks hun, I am being there for him as his friend, he's going through a rough period so even though it hurts, he does know I am there and think that's helped him but at the same time not mentioning how I am feeling and how much I want him back. Don't want to put him under any more pressure. Its hard for me to hear him say he doesn't want to push me away or that I am still his soul mate but the more I think about it and if I'm meant to be with him, it will happen right?
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