HeartBrokenInCO Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 He had broken up with me on Sunday evening. On Tuesday evening he decides to come over to my house and sees me sitting on the sofa with the husband of a dear friend of mine. They were unable to attend my upcoming birthday party so he was dropping off flowers for me. We sat on opposite ends of the sofa, drinking bottled water, talking and laughing for about an hour. Now he won't talk to me face to face. I know he is crushed but I don't understand why he doesn't want to talk. I was the victim of a cheater and in fact caught him in my bed with another woman. He knows me well enough and I've made no secret about the fact that I love him and want to be with him forever. I'm 49 years old so I'm not a kid and I've waited my whole life to find this man. What if anything can I do? If he loves me, he would give me the benefit of the doubt. I don't know what the history is and he may have been cheated on before but not by me. Sorry if I'm rambling, I just want to give enough history to get some feedback. Thanks
Space Ritual Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 You aren't rambling. I saw your other thread but since you did not elaborate on the other one I decided to look this one up. Ah the old "perception" is reality routine on his part. I take it he equated the fact that your friend's husband was there talking to you with a torrid love affair? So of course rather than even allow you to explain its the old silent treatment? Ok here is what you do. Write him a registered letter(one he has to sign for) and just inform him of the circumstances that led to his wrong perception about what happened. Since he is not speaking to you currently this right now may be the only course of action until he cools off. It may not be the most expedient move, but this way you can be assured that if he does sign for it he will get it. It is up to him to read it at that point, so even if he signs for it and throws it in the trash or refuses to sign, at least you will know you attempted to explain and if he is not accepting of this you can walk away with a clear conscience that you attempted to explain. Thats about all I got for ya:) Good Luck
Frogwife Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 I don't know how long you've been dating him, but behavior like that on his part doesn't sound like a fun way for you to live your life. Refusing to speak to you because you're talking to a family friend who happens to be male? For me, that's just a roller coaster in the making. Sure, everyone can have an unwarranted freak-out which is a complete anomaly that is never repeated but, in my experience, things like this are a taste of things to come.
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