Author USMCHokie Posted October 18, 2011 Author Posted October 18, 2011 Hokie, I think you need to stop letting other people get in your head. Decide who you are and be comfortable with that. If I recall, didn't you end up breaking up with a girl you were happy with because your friends said you could do better? I think you need to figure out what YOU want to be happy. I know. I'm getting there. And no, a few of my friends only met her once and thought she was cool. It was me who thought I could do better...or wanted to do better...
Author USMCHokie Posted October 18, 2011 Author Posted October 18, 2011 Apparently my previous post/reply in this thread was even more spot on than I thought it was. I don't know...
Thierro Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 ..Really?... Are you kidding me?... You are hot. Cute smile. Strong arms and back. I'm a guy. No homo. Go figure. I'm going gay for you and you are still insecure about girls? The only thing that is keeping you from enjoying yourself and the oppossite sex are your own irrational thoughts.
OnyxSnowfall Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 ..Really?... Are you kidding me?... You are hot. Cute smile. Strong arms and back. I'm a guy. No homo. Go figure. I'm going gay for you and you are still insecure about girls? The only thing that is keeping you from enjoying yourself and the oppossite sex are your own irrational thoughts. :lmao: and I agree with the bolded.
Author USMCHokie Posted October 19, 2011 Author Posted October 19, 2011 ..Really?... Are you kidding me?... You are hot. Cute smile. Strong arms and back. I'm a guy. No homo. Go figure. I'm going gay for you and you are still insecure about girls? The only thing that is keeping you from enjoying yourself and the oppossite sex are your own irrational thoughts. Come on, Hokeymon(lol) I showed my pic and I got a "nice smile comment and a "you look smart" comment....bleh.... You get comments such as stud muffin, and hot....countless times here... Wish I could feel sorry for you, but I don't. Get help with overcoming the fear that your race is the blame and get on living....You have the world by the balls and you have no idea....27 years old? go let it shine, my friend. Thanks, I appreciate the comments. And yes, I get it now. A lot of growth and learning has occurred over the course of this thread. Like in the song by Three Days Grace, Life Starts Now.
Star Gazer Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 Thanks, I appreciate the comments. And yes, I get it now. A lot of growth and learning has occurred over the course of this thread. Like in the song by Three Days Grace, Life Starts Now. In short, you've received a lot of compliments and now feel better about yourself. It's all typical external validation.
Author USMCHokie Posted October 19, 2011 Author Posted October 19, 2011 In short, you've received a lot of compliments and now feel better about yourself. It's all typical external validation. And that's fine. It is what it is. Hopefully this isn't cyclic. I've read from numerous sources that sometimes external validation is necessary, even if only to get the ball rolling.
Author USMCHokie Posted October 19, 2011 Author Posted October 19, 2011 I think we all need that sometimes though, but I don't think that was his intentions here. To Star, that is my only intention.
SteveC80 Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 Not gonna lie being tall and white and good looking is like hitting the lotto,im treated by women like im superior for something i had nothing to do with:laugh:
snug.bunny Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 I'm not tall or white either. I'm short floppy and fuzzy...ahhhaaahaa!!!!
Author USMCHokie Posted October 19, 2011 Author Posted October 19, 2011 There is no existence in society without external validation. A girl saying yes when you ask her out on a date is a form of external validation, no? Being in a relationship; external validation? Of course. All of us grew up relying on some form of external validation. As adults, we certainly shouldn't rely on it for self worth, but sometimes it is helpful when you're down...
Author USMCHokie Posted October 19, 2011 Author Posted October 19, 2011 A grown man who is an American Marine shouldn't need that, I doubt anyone in the Screaming Eagles needs this type of validation. In fact in my country if you're a serviceman you get women literally wanting to date you. I assume Hokie gets that in the US, surely? I thought women like a man in uniform? I don't use my military status to pick up women...
OnyxSnowfall Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 I think the trouble with external validation is when people don't have their own source of value as their foundation --- instead, they pendulum back and forth between feeling good and or feeling bad --- because they're relying on fickle and varying sources to tell them what they're worth... rather than becoming grounded in their own source, and letting it build up or even having some things removed (like being humbled) and repaired from there. People have different opinions and those opinions change... it is simply not wise to rely on external validation --- To get a "boost" from it, though? Sure... But yes... otherwise one risks "needing" it and becoming exponentially more desperate to get it and never being able to have it from everyone anyway...
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