Untouchable_Fire Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 No I didn't think you were/are crazy. I think you sabotage yourself, because you have a low opinion of yourself. You think that being white and tall would fix your predicament, but it wouldn't. Yours is an attitude problem and a problem of perspective. Look. USMC Hokie is consistently in the company of men to bag 10 star women. Not California Dimes... but very good looking women. I know those types of girls... their tastes are VERY influenced by media. Many won't get down with asian guys... and some won't go with Black guys either. Plus... I know some asian girls that refuse to date asian guys. Why... I don't know. I have a friend from Vietnam... she swore she would never date asian guys... then married a Korean guy 5 years later. Hahaha. She dated white and black guys for 3 years and they treated her like DIRT!!!
ScreamingTrees Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 Hah, and you all thought I was crazy.... Well, don't let this be an excuse for you to wallow in your pitiful, self defeating attitude - it will do you no favors, and as with any drug, the pros of your outlook will be outweighed by the cons in due time.. even if it varies from person to person. And hopefully, when that time comes, you'll have grown so used to this way of thinking that you'll probably seperate yourself from your negative thoughts and won't give a **** because it won't affect you nearly as much mentally and you just won't care, because over time you'll realize you're still here, and that's the most important part. Just realize that you're living life on your own terms and time, you have to be happy with what you have and have done, not with what you don't have and haven't done because the lack of those things can only and HAS only affected you MENTALLY - and only because you've let it because you perceive it to be something you'd missed out on. I'm sure there's SOMEONE out there who died a prude, so is your life really that bad that you have to make intoxicated pity threads on an internet forum? "I said ya, I said ya diggin a hole, son.."
Author USMCHokie Posted October 15, 2011 Author Posted October 15, 2011 Where?! I'm in Clarendon and I'm not getting any free passes. Where are these women clamoring for tall white men? I can easily just hop over the line into D.C. if that's where they're hiding... So now I'm stumbling around in Ballston...still got a ways back to Whitlows...
bigguy02 Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 I AM tall and white. It's not a get over for free card. Trust me. I am VERY tall and white, and I agree.
aj22one Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 So now I'm stumbling around in Ballston...still got a ways back to Whitlows... Be careful out there, A-town can be a dangerous place.
Author USMCHokie Posted October 15, 2011 Author Posted October 15, 2011 I am VERY tall and white, and I agree. Well it's better than a stay in jail card...
Nexus One Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 So now I'm stumbling around in Ballston...still got a ways back to Whitlows... Stay safe, watch out for DC government drones.
carhill Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 Sleep it off. Tomorrow is another day. None of us is perfect.
Sanman Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 Hokie, You are right, you aren't those things. That is life. I am tall ,but not white. I get what you are talking about. Asian and South Asian guys get the short end of the stick in the U.S. However, that is life. Rather than trying to be a player take reality for what it is, remember all these crappy nights, and find a nice gf. You are in pretty good shape and, as I recall, had a nice gf that you dumped. So, you are capable of getting something good with some work. Remember that and be thankful, there are guys in this board who can't do that.
Author USMCHokie Posted October 15, 2011 Author Posted October 15, 2011 Stay safe, watch out for DC government drones. Pit stop at the local silver diner...all my friends have left me to to home their respective females.
aj22one Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 Pit stop at the local silver diner...all my friends have left me to to home their respective females. The one off Wilson (the only one I know of in Arlington)?
Author USMCHokie Posted October 15, 2011 Author Posted October 15, 2011 The one off Wilson (the only one I know of in Arlington)? Correct. Stop by, I'm at the bar seating area in the tan sweater and gray jeans eating eggs and drinking coffee.
Star Gazer Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 Well, your "Chinaman" status was NEVER, EVER a problem for ME, Hokie. It was a complete non-issue. But this... ridiculousness about it? MAJOR turnoff.
Wolf18 Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 You ought to look into dating women from your ancestors country. If you're looking to date white women, or even american women in general, you're going to have a really difficult time as an Asian male who isn't tall. Hell, even if you were tall a lot of women would still not overlook the Asian part. As a short white male, I think I've got it worse. Atleast you have a place to run to (I assume your parents are recent immigrants), I can only guess and experiment with other cultures but never be truly a part of them since I am from America. Pull yourself by the bootstraps. I see you are a marine, has it ever occurred to you that not all of us were born for love, some of us were born for war! I fight on the streets, you fight on the battlefield, but we ought to take solace and make this our center in life rather than something that is unsatisfying in the long term like a woman. But then again , with you I can't win. You're too good to bang a hooker, blame yourself for women's stupidity , and are always putting the womanizers who know the game and play it down for nothing. I know what it's like to be invisible to women (and this is magnified and blown up into your face if you go to the bar), the secret is to...not care.
Wolf18 Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 Stop going out to the bar. Nothing is more depressing for guys like me and you than being actively ignored by women in a place where men and women are supposed to socialize. Add in the alcohol and women become monsters that just want to have fun at another's expense. If all your buddies have women already, why dont you do something that will only be you and the boys? See in other countries I've been to, men go to brothels to drink and leer (and sometimes screw) women. It's great and an amazing masculine bonding experience that would take your depression away. In america we don't have as much of that, but why not find a spot outdoors, make a fire and get a few liters of whiskey, then disappear into the night! So much better than being cooped up in a bar on a busy night like friday, playing lousy modern dance music so high you can't even talk to your friends, surrounded by women who think they're too good for you.
Citizen Erased Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 Pfft please, you're good looking and buff. Your inability to see how awesome you are is what holds you back. Like Star said, this behaviour = turn off. Studly buff man with confidence = hot property.
IrishCarBomb Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 But this... ridiculousness about it? MAJOR turnoff. I can only believe this. I have just moved to the DC area, and for a young professional guy it is one of the easiest dating markets I've seen. Not super helpful advice, but slightly relevant.
Author USMCHokie Posted October 15, 2011 Author Posted October 15, 2011 Well, your "Chinaman" status was NEVER, EVER a problem for ME, Hokie. It was a complete non-issue. But this... ridiculousness about it? MAJOR turnoff. Everything about me is a major turnoff to you, Star. At least I made it home without crashing or getting arrested. Winning.
carhill Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 You might want to rethink the driving while intoxicated part next time....... I understand youth and feeling invincible and all but reconsider that next time. Thanks. Glad you got home OK. Sleep well.
franken Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 I AM tall and white. It's not a get over for free card. Trust me. Me too. Tall and blond and blue eyes. Being blond ain't even "in" nowadays. Chicks are more keen on italian looked like men. And when italian men are complaining that their women are keen on vikings it really makes my laughing. I was never the most successful among ladies though i was almost pretty. I guess i was too dour, too serious. I relaxed and still relax with woman who makes me relax. It has always been a mystery why some females make me relax and some - especially gorgeous - don't. The reason might be - because it. I've not been created to date gorgeous women. Deep in my mind i've never trust them. I've been married for a long time with woman hardly gorgeous at all. But i like her and i guess she's the right person for me. And when it's question about females i don't want hear about bw claiming that they are discriminated by their color of skin. The fact is that - at least in Europe - girls with dark colour skin seems to be as successful as those "octoroons". Believe me - the scale of men's "ideal woman" is indeed very, very wide including tall, short, small, large, blonde, brunette, brown, medium black and very black.
Author USMCHokie Posted October 15, 2011 Author Posted October 15, 2011 You might want to rethink the driving while intoxicated part next time....... I understand youth and feeling invincible and all but reconsider that next time. Thanks. Glad you got home OK. Sleep well. No, I always have a plan...3 mile walk + stopping for coffee and eggs after cutting myself off for a couple hours...I was fine.
carhill Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 No, I always have a plan...3 mile walk + stopping for coffee and eggs after cutting myself off for a couple hours...I was fine. That's commendable, so why the mention of crashing and arrest, since that was not really in the cards, as you were/are sober? Then again, I'm not really aware of the dynamics between you and Stargazer, so I'll leave it alone. Just don't want you to end up as one of those 'mistakes' I've pulled out of the canal behind my place. Maybe you and some other DC male LS'ers should start doing a 'meetup' and put a positive spin on all this stuff. Lots of options other than crying in one's beer.
Nexus One Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 You might want to rethink the driving while intoxicated part next time....... I understand youth and feeling invincible and all but reconsider that next time. If that's true, then that's not cool.
carhill Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 If the OP is relating events accurately, my assumption from his statements was presumptuous. I hope he has a similar plan in place for each adventure. Stay safe.
Untouchable_Fire Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 Everything about me is a major turnoff to you, Star. At least I made it home without crashing or getting arrested. Winning. Yes, that is winning. Listen, whatever other posters may say... I get how you feel. I may not really understand, because of my genetics, but I have a good idea what makes you feel the way you do. Just like a black guy who got pulled over by the police because of his skin color. The difference is that everyone claims what we are attracted to and who we date as just a personal preference. In a media soaked culture, the things we are shown and displayed have an effect on how we feel and act. All I can say is that the last 2 blondes I dated were cheats. I can't even flirt with one without wanting to vomit. It was counter-productive for a long while... but it lead me to meet someone who isn't American. I have never been happier. Don't feel too bad if you can't get D.C. girls... are they really worth dating? Probably not even worth taking to bed. That's the best I've got. Can't fix a culture... all I can say is... I promise you are not missing much.
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