watermelonjuice Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 How many of you go online dating, looking for friends of the opposite sex? Not necessarily friends with benefits, but friends you can hang out with because you don't really have many friends of the opposite sex.
ScreamingTrees Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 http://tinypic.com/r/29cqiic/7 I never understood why people would sign up on an ONLINE DATING website simply to meet PLATONIC FRIENDS when there are 45685167147165147365164 other avenues geared toward very specific, niche interests where you could have mental make out sessions with a bunch of <insert hobby>-loving clones of yourself, if you were into stuff like that. So.. WHY.. would you choose to go on a site like, say, plentyoffish.com? It just reeks of alterior motives and I'll bet people who want nothing to do with negativity can see right through stuff like that.. Hell, if you were REALLY interested in forming some genuine, harmless friendships, turn off the computer and go outside. Go talk to someone, regardless of irrelevant things like age/gender/appearance.. Be warned, what's on the outside is NOT/NEVER an accurate indicator of what's inside.
Author watermelonjuice Posted October 15, 2011 Author Posted October 15, 2011 No way. I don't go OLD for platonic friendships. But I've met a few of them and it puzzles me. I feel that they're wasting my time! What's wrong with these people?!
phineas Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 Wait, wern't you posting a month ago that you just wanted platonic guy friends & didn't want to date? Are you still looking for that with online dating sites?
Author watermelonjuice Posted October 15, 2011 Author Posted October 15, 2011 I don't remember that. I've only gone online to look for relationships.
phineas Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 I don't remember that. I've only gone online to look for relationships. My bad. I thought you were the woman just looking for guys to hang out with.
grkBoy Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 I agree with ScreamingTrees. I honestly wish dating sites would remove the "Looking for Friends" choices and force users to pick dating, LTR, sex...or they don't sign up at all. Sound callous, but if one is seeking friends then they should look for sites about that. Ones where hey encounter both genders in social situations that aren't about dating.
Author watermelonjuice Posted October 15, 2011 Author Posted October 15, 2011 I agree with ScreamingTrees. I honestly wish dating sites would remove the "Looking for Friends" choices and force users to pick dating, LTR, sex...or they don't sign up at all. Sound callous, but if one is seeking friends then they should look for sites about that. Ones where hey encounter both genders in social situations that aren't about dating. I completely agree! Why would it sound callous though? There should be different sites for different purposes. It's not like the desire for new friends is anything wrong, it's just a different purpose that could be better served elsewhere.
grkBoy Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 I completely agree! Why would it sound callous though? There should be different sites for different purposes. It's not like the desire for new friends is anything wrong, it's just a different purpose that could be better served elsewhere. Whenever I state that opinion, I get attacked by someone who claims if I don't want to be friends with women, then how can I fathom being their boyfriend. It's not the case, as I am friends with many women and look at my fiance as one of my best friends...but I simply look at dating sites in that most men and women join them to find dates, sex partners, girlfriends, boyfriends, etc. When you see someone who is "just looking for friends", it seems more or less like a waste of time. You either find this person only wants friends, and you want more, thus things don't work out...or this person wants a boyfriend/girlfriend, but uses the "looking for friends" as a protective measure to easily reject someone. I think it's silly. Join a dating site to date. Join a social site to make "just friends".
Author watermelonjuice Posted October 15, 2011 Author Posted October 15, 2011 Whenever I state that opinion, I get attacked by someone who claims if I don't want to be friends with women, then how can I fathom being their boyfriend. It's not the case, as I am friends with many women and look at my fiance as one of my best friends...but I simply look at dating sites in that most men and women join them to find dates, sex partners, girlfriends, boyfriends, etc. When you see someone who is "just looking for friends", it seems more or less like a waste of time. You either find this person only wants friends, and you want more, thus things don't work out...or this person wants a boyfriend/girlfriend, but uses the "looking for friends" as a protective measure to easily reject someone. I think it's silly. Join a dating site to date. Join a social site to make "just friends". I knew the meaning of what you said. I get that you have to be friends with your partner to be able to be a valuable half, but what those people I met on OLD want platonic friendships! They aren't looking for a friendship with someone they want to fall in love with. There's a difference, how ever small the fine line is.
piggyoink Posted October 16, 2011 Posted October 16, 2011 craigslist has a section for this exact purpose.
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