ChelseaLS Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 I get a lump in my throat as I write this. Here is the deal and why I need advise. My boyfriend (shall I say now ex) broke up with me 6 days ago. We have been dating for 6 years. He says we need to take a break that we will revisit us again in 6 months. I know he still cares just by the way he is making sure I am taken care of and not left high and dry. I know (now) that I may have smothered him and well there were a few areas I went in the wrong direction. That is not to say that he did not have a part in the break either. REGARDLESS.. we are taking a 6 month break. We both need time to grow and work on ourselves, before we can work together. My problem is, we live together and have for 4.5 years. I am trying to give him his space right off the bat because I do love the man and would very much one day to try again. However I am struggling with the NC, as I haven't found a place to move to yet and it's mid month... most things are not available until end of month. I don't have a place I can just go stay until I have a new home. So does anyone or has anyone had a similar situation where complete no NC was not possible and how did you deal with it? I appreciate all advice.
no_love_here Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 Wow you are one stunning women! I have no idea what your ex bf was thinking on taking a break, he better hope you dont find someone else. Good luck on your journey.
Author ChelseaLS Posted November 18, 2011 Author Posted November 18, 2011 Thank you . That is very kind and nice to hear when I feel low.
Von Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 I actually had something similar happen to me when I was younger. We were living together and she basically cheated on me so I broke up with her. She stayed about a month into the breakup in our apartment and we didnt talk much. I didnt know what NC was back then. But i came home one day and she had moved out. It hurt but I never looked back. Most of my other girlfriends after her were much better. Anyways shes happily married now and Im happy for her. It gets much easier when you arent living together anymore. So that should be your next move. When the relationship is over its best to just move on. If they arent willing to work on it then get out, move on, and let go. NC is the best move you can make when one person wants out. If youve tried to work on your issues, and youve told him how you feel, and he is not budging from his decision then focus all your energy on finding a new place for youself
Author ChelseaLS Posted November 18, 2011 Author Posted November 18, 2011 That post is pretty old. I ended up not staying at the house and then moved out within a week and a half of BU. Good stuff. Ignored him as best I could/ can (we work together) and he reached out to me 3 weeks into BU. 42 days (as of this early morning) and weird going no's. But yes NC has helped. As I said above it's a "break"... but I am treating it as a break up.. well trying too .
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