ChelseaLS Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 I get a lump in my throat as I write this. Here is the deal and why I need advise. My boyfriend (shall I say now ex) broke up with me 6 days ago. We have been dating for 6 years. He says we need to take a break that we will revisit us again in 6 months. I know he still cares just by the way he is making sure I am taken care of and not left high and dry. I know (now) that I may have smothered him and well there were a few areas I went in the wrong direction. That is not to say that he did not have a part in the break either. REGARDLESS.. we are taking a 6 month break. We both need time to grow and work on ourselves, before we can work together. My problem is, we live together and have for 4.5 years. I am trying to give him his space right off the bat because I do love the man and would very much one day to try again. However I am struggling with the NC, as I haven't found a place to move to yet and it's mid month... most things are not available until end of month. I don't have a place I can just go stay until I have a new home. So does anyone or has anyone had a similar situation where complete no NC was not possible and how did you deal with it? I appreciate all advice.
abuckeyeleaf Posted October 21, 2011 Posted October 21, 2011 I have read advice elsewhere for those who are stuck in a living situation together or have to have contact due to children. Keep it strictly business. Only discuss things that HAVE to be discussed - rent, bills, other finances. I can't imagine it will be easy, but you have to do it for yourself until you can get out of the shared housing. Do you all have a second bedroom? If you have a guest room, I'd move in there. You don't have to be hateful because you're not being buddy buddy, but it really is for the best. If he says hi, say hi back. Don't ask him how his day was, what his weekend plans are, and don't answer if he asks. I would also keep as busy as possible and stay in another room or do an activity outside of the house when you otherwise would both be home for a long period of time. Meet friends for coffee and moral support, go window shopping for home furnishings - imagine how great your new place is going to be decorated! You've only got a week and a half, you can do this!
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