BroghamZvatox Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 I have never been in a relationship with anyone, ever, in my entire life. Not necessarily because I'm an extremely introverted individual. In fact, I do some wild ass sh.it. But because I've never really found someone that I thought I could get along with (I'm not shallow...at least, I don't think so). Over the course of the past month and a half I have encountered, began conversing with, and lost my goddamn senses and life alike to quite possibly the most wonderful woman I have ever met. She compliments me along every feature I have so far discovered. We enjoy literature, we have a general disregard for authority and we value education. Relatively elaborate conversations have taken place, wherein we've revealed things about ourselves (unfortunately, it has concentrated foremost about school). She was drawing a cheat sheet on her hand prior to an exam we had in the class, I couldn't contain myself and cracked up. I told her I had essentially passed all my math classes by doing the same thing. The conversation wandered off, and I concluded it by telling her that if she was really worried she shouldn't hesitate to glance over at my table, I didn't really mind, and told her I'd done my fair share of cheating over the years. Needless to say, I'm losing my goddamn mind over this woman...and I don't even know her name. If I even began to tell you how much of a massive effect this woman has had upon me over the course of the past month you would sh.it yourself laughing--The operations of the human mind are a great mystery indeed. My speculations as to why I'm so damn obsessed with her would contain no more ground than yours. The only reasonable explanation I can raise is that I'm pretty fu.ckin' lonely right now and this woman is both stunning in appearance, and still possesses wit and a sense of humor, she is the epitome of the sort of person with whom I would want to spend my life--Someone who has a very open mind, with whom I could have both a decent conversation, yet also a wonderful time. My only problem is, I don't know whether she likes me, and in addition to this, I can't seem to rally my nerves together to speak to her effectively. I can speak to absolutely anyone at all, but I still have difficultly speaking to her...unless it's school related--I can ask her how she did on her exam, but I can't ask how she is. And needless to say, this leaves the impression upon her that I'm some goddamn nerd--anyone who took even a quick glance at me would not think I'm a nerd, I have a sort of heavy metal look--I have long hair and prefer darker colors. But unfortunately I sound too intelligent when I'm speaking--friends have told me this, and my family has reinforced the claim. The combination of sounding intelligent and speaking only about school related issues leaves an extremely unfavorable impression! MY QUESTION: What do you think I could do to become more comfortable with her, and shift the conversation away from school related material?
mike111 Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 MY QUESTION: What do you think I could do to become more comfortable with her, and shift the conversation away from school related material? You sound like you have a lot of good qualities. And my guess is she has the same feelings for you as you do for her Why don't you tell her just how you are feeling? mike
Feelin Frisky Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 Do you have a nick name that you teacher doesn't call you by that you'd want her to use? Pitch it to her next time and see how she responds. If she tells you hers, it's a good sign. Build on that if that's how it goes. Take action and make opportunities count. Try to put her at ease and never crowd her too. If she gives you more signs of openness, find something in common to do. Good luck.
Author BroghamZvatox Posted October 14, 2011 Author Posted October 14, 2011 You sound like you have a lot of good qualities. And my guess is she has the same feelings for you as you do for her Why don't you tell her just how you are feeling? mike I'd love to tell her how I feel, but I'm afraid that if I do and she says no that'll be the end of it. Do you have a nick name that you teacher doesn't call you by that you'd want her to use? Pitch it to her next time and see how she responds. If she tells you hers, it's a good sign. Build on that if that's how it goes. Take action and make opportunities count. Try to put her at ease and never crowd her too. If she gives you more signs of openness, find something in common to do. Good luck. I told her my nick name about a month ago when I asked her whether she'd be interested in studying for an exam with me...she said her brother was sick. But we hadn't spoken very much prior to that occasion--I don't blame her for saying no, I was extremely nervous. Since then we have spoken a ton and it's been pretty cool. She is a roller coaster of openness, at one moment she'll share an entire tale and another she won't be even remotely interested in conversation--Perhaps I'm misinterpreting her.
Kaplan Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 I wouldn't tell her how you feel. I think it's better to act in a way that says, "Hey, I'm interested in you," but doesn't reveal any more than that. Just ask her out to do something casual and don't think too much. She probably has a boyfriend anyway. And don't worry about why you're so into her. That's the way it goes, in my experience.
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