Author superchiefs Posted October 14, 2011 Author Posted October 14, 2011 Then you block her from FB and remove her from your head and life and focus solely on your current relationship. You say you love her and want to spend the rest of your life with her, then stop letting your ex hang over your shoulder and move forward. If it is making you angry, remove it from your life. The fact that you entertain it makes me wonder. If I was your current gf, I would send you packing too as Wilsonx mentioned. If you love this woman, then you will love her enough to remove your ex from your life. Simple. She hasnt asked me to do that though. And my current girlfriend still talks to some of her ex-boyfriends. So I dont really see why I cant have my ex as a fb friend.
Mack05 Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 My girlfriend knows that I am fb friends with my ex and she also knows what my ex posted on her fb because I showed it to her. I really dont think I have feelings for my ex, I know would never even consider being in a relationship with her again, but I must admit that it does sort of make me feel good to know that her coworker cheated on her. And what are you talking about, jumping ship? I havent jumped any ship. I think Wilson is referring to is that one of you could potentially jump ship in this scenario. I don't think you have been honest with her and she with you. If she knew about your posts here on LS over the past few months, do you think she would be fine with that? If she would be the there is something seriouly fundamentally wrong here. I mean she were making jokes with your new girl about your ex (throwing mud as geegirl said). That is nothing short if bizarre. Wilson, Geegirl they are some of the best posters on LS. Do you not think to yourself..hmmmm maybe they have a point, or is it in one ear out the next as seems to be the case with you..
geegirl Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 She hasnt asked me to do that though. And my current girlfriend still talks to some of her ex-boyfriends. So I dont really see why I cant have my ex as a fb friend. Have her on there then. But coming here and asking what she means when she posts something random. That's not what "friends" do. I don't copy paste something a "friend" is saying on FB and come here and ask for feedback.
redblack66 Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 She hasnt asked me to do that though. And my current girlfriend still talks to some of her ex-boyfriends. So I dont really see why I cant have my ex as a fb friend. If you are sitting on two chairs, you will fall between them.
Author superchiefs Posted October 14, 2011 Author Posted October 14, 2011 I think all three of you need to sit together, hold hands and sing kumbaya. Just a mess. Why don't you and your girlfriend decipher the message together instead of coming here and asking us when clearly, both of you should be able to get answers seeing you are all playing some sick game. I am not playing any game and my girlfriend and I have discussed it, but really dont know what to make from it all except that my ex is kind of crazy. And I like posting stuff here because I enjoy reading all of the different responses.
Mack05 Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 And I like posting stuff here because I enjoy reading all of the different responses. I can't reply to you anymore, seriously..I mean are you f c u k ing kidding me with this!? If I posted here "my ex is crazy and I like posting stuff here because I enjoy reading all of the different responses", would you think I am slightly ****ing nuts! ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh Yes!
geegirl Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 I am not playing any game and my girlfriend and I have discussed it, but really dont know what to make from it all except that my ex is kind of crazy. And I like posting stuff here because I enjoy reading all of the different responses. Both of you should be focusing on your lives with each other and your future together. Instead, both playing around in the mud and focusing on someone else's misfortune. Why is it YOUR business to make sense of her ramblings on FB. It was not even directed at you. You have no business and just as Graceful said you had no business posting her words on here and asking for analysis. After our analysis, what does that do for you? Do you go and share it with your current gf? What does it do for you? You should be using that time to focus on you, your life and your relationship. Come here and ask advice about your current R, not about your ex. Clearly, you two are very immature and don't have an understanding of what adults do when they are committed to each other in a real relationship.
geegirl Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 And I like posting stuff here because I enjoy reading all of the different responses. There are people with real problems Super. If this is not a problem to you, and you just enjoy reading different responses, then there should be a board called "General" that you can post for fun.
Mack05 Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 I can't reply to you anymore, seriously..I mean are you f c u k ing kidding me with this!? If I posted here "my ex is crazy and I like posting stuff here because I enjoy reading all of the different responses", would you think I am slightly ****ing nuts! ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh Yes! We have people all over this forum, posting with broken hearts and others trying to help and here we have a guy who has a girl he loves and is happy, but likes to post here because "my ex is crazy and I like posting stuff here because I enjoy reading all of the different responses"... I hope people no longer reply to you..
Author superchiefs Posted October 14, 2011 Author Posted October 14, 2011 We have people all over this forum, posting with broken hearts and others trying to help and here we have a guy who has a girl he loves and is happy, but likes to post here because "my ex is crazy and I like posting stuff here because I enjoy reading all of the different responses"... I hope people no longer reply to you.. Is everyone breaking up with me? Did my ex do the right thing by breaking up with me? Am I an evil person? Would the world be a better place without me in it?
M2155 Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 Defriend/block your ex. You aren't being "friends." "She is friends with her exes..." is not a good justification. You may be or want to be friends with your ex but blocking her would be a positive step in helping you focus on your current relationship. You can add her back later. For now work on that 5%
wilsonx Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 Theres a saying "Water Seeks its Own Level" I have posted many times in other threads. You call your ex crazy! In order to date someone and be engaged to someone that is crazy, you either have to be a) crazy yourself b) have extremely low self esteem and or no confidence. You want to know how I know? Because I have dated the craziest of crazy. The fact is you are still holding on to her. You are still friends with her on facebook? Why? She left you and cheated on you? This shows you have absolutely no self respect or dignity. Look at your current girlfriend, why is she still friends with her ex's. I wonder, if she is just like your ex or close. You just haven't seen it yet because you have had no time for reflection on your past relationship and on your present, you are just focused on the past. And you are lying to yourself bro. I hate to say it, you are. You are not over your ex. If you were, you wouldn't care. Its that simple.
geegirl Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 Is everyone breaking up with me? Did my ex do the right thing by breaking up with me? Am I an evil person? Would the world be a better place without me in it? What do you want from this board Super? You ask a question. We answer. You don't listen and are stuck in your mindset. No one knows how to help you. You are insistent on keeping tabs on your ex. That is a huge red flag. All I know is that you aren't over your ex, you and your gf find it interesting to poke your noses in your ex's misfortune, you both are focused on other people's business instead of you R and that you are both immature.
Mack05 Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 Am I an evil person? ? No of course you are not evil, but you are very emotionally immature and as Wilson said you are kidding yourself right now..
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