stunned8165 Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 I need good advise on what to do now. I have been reaching out to my ex with no reply in the past couple of weeks except for one with just a couple of kind texts and e mails. Many say kill em with kindness, many say tell her off. I know the main focus should be myself and I am working on that....... very well actually except for really missing the kids and the family unit I committed my self to. My original thread link is below. But I need to know. I'm really confused. It has been 4 1/2 months since she moved out. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t302341/
geegirl Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 (edited) I have been reaching out to my ex with no reply in the past couple of weeks except for one with just a couple of kind texts and e mails. Let it go. You have received good advice in all your threads. You're trying to force something that just cannot be forced. If anything you are pushing her further and further away by your insistence. The fact that she is not even replying is a huge indication that she is not interested. I don't mean to be harsh, but when a man does this, it is very unattractive to a woman. Please, you need to grow a backbone and stand up and show her strength versus chasing her when she does not want to be chased. I know you miss the family unit and what you committed to but your circumstances have changed, and you are not a part of that unit anymore and you need to let go. You need to face that reality. Let go. If she wants to come back you, she has to do it on her own. And even when she does, you need to think about who she really is and what can she offer you versus getting back into the same cycle because you are romanticizing her and idealizing the situation. It's been 4 months now and I have a strong feeling that all you have done is dwell about this. When you should have been using it to grieve and heal. In another 4 months you will be in this same spot. Edited October 14, 2011 by geegirl
geegirl Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t302341/ Wilsonx nailed it. Listen to what he is saying. NC and work on yourself.
Author stunned8165 Posted October 14, 2011 Author Posted October 14, 2011 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t302341/ Wilsonx nailed it. Listen to what he is saying. NC and work on yourself. So basically just shut it down with even letting her know that I give up?.. Or let her know I tried and have no other option but to say see ya...
geegirl Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 So basically just shut it down with even letting her know that I give up?.. Or let her know I tried and have no other option but to say see ya... Stunned, she ended it. You don't have to let her know anything. You wanting to tell her that you give up and "see ya" is your way of trying to get a reaction. Hoping it will jolt her. Stop. Just let go. You don't need to say anything. She ended it and has moved on.
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