thatconfusedgirl Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 So here's the scenario which I find myself in more times than I like to admit.. A guy shows interest in me and I in him, whether it's an official date or not, the guy makes a big effort to be with me, ie: travelling a long distance, buying me dinner or gifts etc. I am interested enough to invite this person into my home at late hours and then I realise that I have no desire to sleep with them because I've just discovered something annoying about them, or the first kiss was horrible, whatever. But then out of guilt for leading them on, I feel like I owe it to them to sleep with them, so I do, and feel pretty lousy afterwards. How do you tell a guy after making it seem like you're very interested in sleeping with them that at the last minute you suddenly don't want to be with them without hurting their feelings?
lolarose Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 I say just do it politely. Depending on how he feels about you, there's a good chance his feelings will be hurt regardless. Think of it this way, if you keep it going, he may end up losing interest in you in a few weeks anyway? lol that may help to keep that in mind. dont feel so bad for him.
Cypress25 Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 Try dating the guy for awhile before inviting him into your home. Then you'd have a chance to get to know him and decide if you're interested enough to progress to the next level of intimacy. Besides, the first kiss needs to happen long before you sleep together. Having sex with guys out of guilt? Because you owe them sex? How were you instructed in your life?! Your body is not a peace offering. Get some self-respect.
Author thatconfusedgirl Posted October 14, 2011 Author Posted October 14, 2011 I'm a very impulsive person, and don't often deny my body of it's urges, if I'm sexually interested in someone on the first meeting I tend to find I can't control myself. This has lead to a series of bad habits. I don't know how to teach myself to take it slow with men, I'm very much "I'm attracted to you, you're attracted to me, why waste time?" I jump head first into everything.
Almond_Joy Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 Maybe you can try going on dates that make it really difficult to get back to your place? If you know that's what you're going to suggest because you're attracted to the guy... I agree with Cypress also, in that it would be better for you to put in several dates before escalating to sex.
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