Mme. Chaucer Posted October 25, 2011 Posted October 25, 2011 I guess you will never know You really are basically just an attention junkie / troll, aren't you. Is that all there is to you? No doubt. I've often wondered if anyone could possibly exist in real life who is as ludicrous as this character you portray here. What a time waster. But, I guess the joke's on me and anybody else who's responded to you with sincerity. Ever. It would be really cool, and fun, for somebody to send the cached deleted thread directly to the inbox of your boyfriend (if there really is a "you," and if such a stunted individual could actually have anything like a live "boyfriend," which seems tremendously doubtful). I'll keep my fingers crossed for that day.
MexicanBillBacker Posted October 25, 2011 Posted October 25, 2011 Hahahaha...I live with once a year sex
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted October 25, 2011 Author Posted October 25, 2011 Mme C, Brutal honesty: your advice has really helped me (as much as one's advice can, it's really up to the person to implement the changes). You are very insightful when you frame your words in such a way that I feel like I am not being attacked. Just because that thread was deleted doesn't mean that I didn't read every post in it.
dasein Posted October 25, 2011 Posted October 25, 2011 Thread question could be easily rephrased, "would you be able to live with pizza one-twice a week?" Sex is an appetite like any other. Certain industries have an interest in characterizing it as an immutable "drive" that doesn't change. Truly, though, the appetite for sex is just like any other appetite, it grows as you consume more and decreases as you consume less. That's all there is to it. Advertising and marketing rely on having us all buy into a "need" for sex because sex is still the primary way products are sold. There is no basic human need for sexual intercourse or activity. Thousands of religious practitioners and members of cultures that haven't been "hypersexed" the world over go entirely or almost entirely without it with no ill effects whatsoever. Men do need to ejaculate fairly regularly for best prostate health, but I imagine that is even overhyped.
anne1707 Posted October 25, 2011 Posted October 25, 2011 Mme C, Brutal honesty: your advice has really helped me (as much as one's advice can, it's really up to the person to implement the changes). You are very insightful when you frame your words in such a way that I feel like I am not being attacked. Just because that thread was deleted doesn't mean that I didn't read every post in it. But why was it deleted? Did you request this deletions? And what about your past deleted threads?
Mme. Chaucer Posted October 25, 2011 Posted October 25, 2011 ES, whether you hack, or you harangue others into deleting your threads: I cannot IMAGINE an individual who should get special privileges of having their threads deleted LESS than you should. You say and do terrible things and feel completely justified, and you NEVER hold yourself accountable. And here on LoveShack, it really works that way. You post horrible things and then they just go away, rather than linger around and make you see them, and maybe be seen by someone you'd rather didn't, and become a part of your posting history for all members of LS to see forever. You know, in real life, all the awful things a person says and does in their relations with other people never really go away. They become a part of the substance of the relationship. It's all part of a creation; you are creating a LOT when you lash out in complete, abandoned self indulgence because you did not get a need met, or get your way, or whatever.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted October 25, 2011 Author Posted October 25, 2011 If anyone wants an update: My bf got home last night and I was crying. He just held me and comforted me for a couple of hours. I couldn't even articulate why I was crying. He told me that he is afraid that I will leave because I don't feel "the chemistry". I said nothing. We kept sitting in silence. He told me how every time I mention an ex (which I casually do) - it makes him lose some of his attraction to me. He asked me to make a deal: I never talk about my exs again and he will never watch porn. I agreed. He told me some stories about his past that could explain some of his sexual hang-ups. I comforted him. I also apologized for the hurtful comment earlier that day about him not being a man. He attempted to kiss me and to have sex. I resisted at first and told him that I don't want to force him. He claimed that he really wants to and that you can't techinacilly force a man to have sex. So we did. I got my period in the middle of sex and blood stained his sheets and mattress We spent rest of the evening wiping it off. We fell asleep in each other's arms. This morning, he tried to make out with me. I guess he is attempting to be more sexual. I am actually not quite sure if given all the conflict, this relationship can be saved at this point.
Star Gazer Posted October 25, 2011 Posted October 25, 2011 Why are you providing an update HERE to a thread you had deleted? It only makes sense to those of us who read that deleted thread... That said, I don't really care for the updates anymore. I hope those who have put energy into your threads focus their energy elsewhere.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted October 25, 2011 Author Posted October 25, 2011 But why was it deleted? Did you request this deletions? And what about your past deleted threads? Anne, most of my past threads actually got deleted because of fighting and too many flaming posts/infractions. I had nothing to do with it.
Star Gazer Posted October 25, 2011 Posted October 25, 2011 Anne, most of my past threads actually got deleted because of fighting and too many flaming posts/infractions. I had nothing to do with it. Not true, and there was absolutely no flaming in the last thread. The horrible things being said were coming out of your mouth, er, fingers...about your BF and the conflict. So it couldn't have been deleted for that reason...
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted October 26, 2011 Author Posted October 26, 2011 Not true, and there was absolutely no flaming in the last thread. The horrible things being said were coming out of your mouth, er, fingers...about your BF and the conflict. So it couldn't have been deleted for that reason... I said most of my past threads. I said nothing about my yesterday's thread because I am not allowed to say anything publicly.
Art_Critic Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 If anyone wants an update: My bf got home last night and I was crying. He just held me and comforted me for a couple of hours. I couldn't even articulate why I was crying. He told me that he is afraid that I will leave because I don't feel "the chemistry". I said nothing. We kept sitting in silence. He told me how every time I mention an ex (which I casually do) - it makes him lose some of his attraction to me. He asked me to make a deal: I never talk about my exs again and he will never watch porn. I agreed. He told me some stories about his past that could explain some of his sexual hang-ups. I comforted him. I also apologized for the hurtful comment earlier that day about him not being a man. He attempted to kiss me and to have sex. I resisted at first and told him that I don't want to force him. He claimed that he really wants to and that you can't techinacilly force a man to have sex. So we did. I got my period in the middle of sex and blood stained his sheets and mattress We spent rest of the evening wiping it off. We fell asleep in each other's arms. This morning, he tried to make out with me. I guess he is attempting to be more sexual. I am actually not quite sure if given all the conflict, this relationship can be saved at this point. Only time will tell ES.. sometimes the damage done by words can't be undone.. but sometimes it can and the couples work thru it. Thanks for the update... It is amazing to me about the number of posters that are creating all kinds of reasons why your last thread was deleted.. I shake my head... In the end all that matters is that is was deleted.. end of story.. Good luck to you and your BF...
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted October 26, 2011 Author Posted October 26, 2011 Only time will tell ES.. sometimes the damage done by words can't be undone.. but sometimes it can and the couples work thru it. Thanks for the update... It is amazing to me about the number of posters that are creating all kinds of reasons why your last thread was deleted.. I shake my head... In the end all that matters is that is was deleted.. end of story.. Good luck to you and your BF... Thanks, art. I appreciate your supportive words. I think my best bet right now is to focus on other areas of my life, and just let this relationship be for a while.
LexiB Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 I was looking for that thread to comment this morning. How does one so easily and repeatedly get threads deleted when others request the same and are denied? There was a lot of good advice on that thread. Agreed! 100%. Especially with the bolded. Shame really. I read most of that thread and there was nothing incendiary in it that would warrant deletion (certainly not compared with some of her past ones; that MASSIVE one about her pictures ring a bell?) Bizarre.
Ariadne Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 This morning, he tried to make out with me. I guess he is attempting to be more sexual. I am actually not quite sure if given all the conflict, this relationship can be saved at this point. Thanks for the update also. I guess you are going to have to be patient. Also, if the guy was celibate for such a long time he can't change so fast. Hope you can work it out, he's been supportive at least.
UpDownAllAround Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 I would give anything to have sex with a girl with that kind of regularity. Once or twice a week would suit me fine. Although with my high sex drive I'd probably want it every night Monday - Sunday. :love:
Star Gazer Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 I said most of my past threads. I said nothing about my yesterday's thread because I am not allowed to say anything publicly. So you're acknowledging that you asked it to be deleted, not that it was deleted sua sponte. Gotcha.
Star Gazer Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 I haven't been absent from the forums very long, but I'm, I don't know, mildly disappointed (?) to see that the same old LS conflicts are still happening. I don't know exactly what I expected. For everyone to magically stop rubbing each other the wrong way or something, maybe? I actually see friendship here, and I happen to think that the usual suspects would have a much easier time getting along in person. Okay welikeincrowds, welcome to the internet. Did you expect ES to have "magically stopped" saying horrible things to and about her BF and posting the text of his messages? You're a smart guy... I don't know why you'd expect anything different, really. All of the energy and everything everyone said in the most recent thread was for naught. And it was ALL good, there were MIRACULOUSLY no inflammatory posts. Such a shame, really.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted October 26, 2011 Author Posted October 26, 2011 Why would you all want my thread there? So that my bf can see it and cause me distress and pain? You seriously all enjoy seeing me suffer? Wow Please don't pretend that you have never vented your frustrations on LS that you wouldn't feel comfortable your SO seeing. I thought that was the actual purpose of LS.
AHardDaysNight Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 I don't know what the conflict is, here, but I haven't seen ES say anything that has warranted an attack.
Star Gazer Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 Why would you all want my thread there? So that my bf can see it and cause me distress and pain? You seriously all enjoy seeing me suffer? Wow Please don't pretend that you have never vented your frustrations on LS that you wouldn't feel comfortable your SO seeing. I thought that was the actual purpose of LS. I'm not the least bit surprised that you're concerned about how YOU would feel if he came across your threads which say horrible things about him, and not the least bit of concern for how HE would feel. That said, you were posting things you allegedly said to his face, and you were posting things that he allegedly said to you. If what you said was TRUE (i.e., you said to him what you told us you did, and he said what you told us he did), I'm not sure how keeping the thread up would in any way change the dynamics of your relationship. You're also continuing the exact topic of that deleted thread HERE in this thread, even posting an update which includes stuff from the deleted thread. What's the point of deleting a thread that you intend on continuing??? Seeing as he knows you post here, and you are worried about how YOU would feel if he read the things you say, and have had to have about 1 in 5 of your threads about him deleted, I think many of us expect you to stop posting the details of your relationship and it's never ending cycle of ES-created drama.
Star Gazer Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 I don't know what the conflict is, here, but I haven't seen ES say anything that has warranted an attack. Of course you haven't. 1. You haven't read all her threads. 2. She has the worst of all of them DELETED so you can't read it anyway.
AHardDaysNight Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 Wait, her boyfriend knows she posts here? Dude, I wouldn't want my girlfriend complaining about my problems where I knew about them! She really needs to create a different account! Anyway, OP's boyfriend...she wants more sex, give it to her!
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted October 26, 2011 Author Posted October 26, 2011 Yes, I am going to stop posting. And you SG, need to get a life.
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