Xefyr Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 My buddy's looking to me for help and I dunno what to tell him, so now I'm looking to you: He's been in an 8-year relationship with this girl ever since we were seniors in high school. She was his first serious girlfriend ever, and he lost his virginity to her too. There seem to be waves in their relationship from time to time, but all-in-all, they get along well and at least have made it this far, which impresses me because they live together and have the same job on the same schedule every Mon-Fri. Now, he loves her and says he wants to marry her in the next few years, but lately he talking with me about how he has regrets over possibly only having sex with one woman for his entire life, and how he really wants to try hooking up with someone else before they get married. He justifies it as a 'primordial male need to sow one's oats', which I can almost buy into. Almost. Putting myself in his place, I can understand where he's coming from, I just don't think that it's be a one-time fix-all even if he did. Tried suggesting to him to take some time apart and reevaluate things, but their lives are now so entangled with each others' that he doesn't think it'd work. He's a good guy and doesn't wanna hurt her, but does wanna do something kinda selfish, yet it's difficult for me to blame him because of the odd situation he's in. He keeps bringing it up with me, so I know he's looking for advice but I dunno what to tell him--my usual black and white lines on right and wrong seem a little too fuzzy to judge here. Any input?
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