futuregopher Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 How did I mess this one up? I met this girl saturday night at a campus bar. I got her number and actually was interested in talking and getting to know her more. So here is the conversation - Sunday 2pm me: hey its xxx, it was cool meeting you last night her: LoL [] nice to meet you too (I think the [] was an emoticon but my phone is old and it doesn't receive these) Monday 9pm me: hey would you want to meet up and get coffee or something later this week? her: sure 10 minutes later her: but don't you have midterms this week? me: no lol why do you? her: oh just wondering b/c a lot of ppl have them this week Thursday(today) at 12pm me: hey xxx location(icecream shop) at 8ish today? NO RESPONSE FROM HER. How did I mess this one up? My friends think it's because I "asked her out" one on one instead of meeting as a group hangout. Any thoughts? Thank you for the help!
eleanorhurting Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 It is probably because i am not available right now or ready to date but every time a guy is that persistant with me and I'm not interested i act how the girl is acting. BUT im very touchy. My friends say I push people away. I do it because i need to right now i just cant deal with dating or anything like it but I dont like to say it either so I just ignore advances until the person gets the hint. Maybe its being a coward but its easier than having the whole "look im not sure where you are going with this but I just cannot even think of dating right now" . Maybe shes not interested? Maybe shes not looking for anything? OR she could just be busy. I dont know if I could go back to almost 1 year ago when I broke up with my actual boyfriend (not the ex i keep moping about on here who was never even my boyfriend) i would have waited way longer to date. I mean I wasnt ready and it was a big mess and it isnt until now that im trying to fix everything. I am in worse shape than I was last december.
BLuvv Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 I don't see anything wrong with what you did. She could be busy or she's just not intersted and doesn't want to come out and say it directly. Don't take it hard, there's plenty other girls.
antz2411 Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 Monday 9pm 10 minutes later her: but don't you have midterms this week? her: oh just wondering b/c a lot of ppl have them this week Thursday(today) at 12pm me: hey xxx location(icecream shop) at 8ish today? dood, she said sure just to be nice. how could you not notice she already tried to come up with an excuse not to go? actually she gave you two rebuttals! shes not interested man move on. what i would have done was the day you guys were suppose to go out i would have waited for her text instead of you texting her, if she texted then you know you're in if she doesnt then you know the answer. shes probably like "this is one of those desperate guys again!" next! haha anyway way man. keep meeting new people! good luck.
lalalandman Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 You're trying too hard. Indifference is key. But it's ok, with time, you'll get it.
Author futuregopher Posted October 14, 2011 Author Posted October 14, 2011 dood, she said sure just to be nice. how could you not notice she already tried to come up with an excuse not to go? actually she gave you two rebuttals! shes not interested man move on. what i would have done was the day you guys were suppose to go out i would have waited for her text instead of you texting her, if she texted then you know you're in if she doesnt then you know the answer. shes probably like "this is one of those desperate guys again!" next! haha anyway way man. keep meeting new people! good luck. Ya man!! I just realized it now antz!!! Actually, I should have realized when I first met her. She kept asking if I was an undergraduate at the bar. She's probably a couple of years older than me as she is a graduate law student. Maybe she's not interested in dating a younger person. Oh well Yeah, so this is how she texted back. There were rain showers yesterday. her: it's raining today Me: yea haha not going today then (some weird pleasantries) I think this one is over hahaha. Thanks everyone for the help!
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