azsinglegal Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 You're drinking at a friend's (read: hammered), your NEW girlfriend mentions your penis size that you are insecure about it so you become enraged and lash out at her. This is only AFTER other women there were talking about THEIR man's penis who were also present. - Would you break up with her? - Would you stay with her just to wait until the right time to get revenge?
Pasttense Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 You vow to never get drunk again and to quit associating with drunks.
PratyekaYana Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 You're drinking at a friend's (read: hammered), your NEW girlfriend mentions your penis size that you are insecure about it so you become enraged and lash out at her. This is only AFTER other women there were talking about THEIR man's penis who were also present. - Would you break up with her? - Would you stay with her just to wait until the right time to get revenge? I realize that alcohol is notorious for encouraging people to act in ways that are outside of their normal behavior set, but, even with that fact in place, I would break up with a girlfriend who betrayed me in that way. She broadcast an insecurity of mine, completely violating the intimacy that I believed she and I shared. What choice do I have but to eject her from my life?
Imageiko Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 I can understand why he's pissed if he's already got insecurity issues and talked to you about it. I'm sure he thought that was just between the two of you. I don't know what I'd do in his shoes as I don't have any insecurity issues about that but I'd probably be pissed if something I shared in confidence was blabbed to others. I'd say you probably took it too far in this case. It's one thing to say how big his dick is but totally another to mention how he's insecure about it.
Author azsinglegal Posted October 13, 2011 Author Posted October 13, 2011 I can understand why he's pissed if he's already got insecurity issues and talked to you about it. I'm sure he thought that was just between the two of you. I don't know what I'd do in his shoes as I don't have any insecurity issues about that but I'd probably be pissed if something I shared in confidence was blabbed to others. I'd say you probably took it too far in this case. It's one thing to say how big his dick is but totally another to mention how he's insecure about it. I need to clarify. I didn't know it was his insecurity. No clue until MONTHS later when he brought up the incident. Then continued to bring it up the entire time we were dating only to use me and extract revenge against me. But honestly, things should've ended right there IMO. It was a learning relationship for me.
DepressedinDenver Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 Eh lets see. Girl drinks too much. Check Girl is a follower. Check. Girl doesnt know boundaries. Check. Yeah why not get a little revenge first and then dump her.
ShannonMI Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 You're drinking at a friend's (read: hammered), your NEW girlfriend mentions your penis size that you are insecure about it so you become enraged and lash out at her. This is only AFTER other women there were talking about THEIR man's penis who were also present. - Would you break up with her? - Would you stay with her just to wait until the right time to get revenge? I'd be f*cking pissed if I was the guy. It's one thing to talk about it amongst yourselves, but with your girlfriends while he's there? No way. I don't know if I'd breakup with the girl over this, but I definitely would have a sit down talk with her and tell her how rude and insensitive it was for her to talk about my penis. That's if I was a guy of course. I'm not obviously, but I know men are uber-sensitive about their dicks.:p
Author azsinglegal Posted October 13, 2011 Author Posted October 13, 2011 I'd be f*cking pissed if I was the guy. It's one thing to talk about it amongst yourselves, but with your girlfriends while he's there? No way. I don't know if I'd breakup with the girl over this, but I definitely would have a sit down talk with her and tell her how rude and insensitive it was for her to talk about my penis. That's if I was a guy of course. I'm not obviously, but I know men are uber-sensitive about their dicks.:p He was sending me articles for months after we broke up about why women shouldn't talk about it and how it effects men and blah blah blah. This was a while ago but I was wondering what the collective here thought.
ShannonMI Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 I need to clarify. I didn't know it was his insecurity. No clue until MONTHS later when he brought up the incident. Then continued to bring it up the entire time we were dating only to use me and extract revenge against me. But honestly, things should've ended right there IMO. It was a learning relationship for me. If a man has a small dick he's going to be insecure about it no matter what. So saying you didn't know it was an insecurity of his is a lame excuse. Just because he didn't tell you about his insecurity doesn't mean he didn't have one. How would you feel if he told all his buddies in front of you, you had a big, loose, flappy vagina or that it stunk? You'd throw a fit. It's virtually the same thing. You need to learn to be tactful and respectful. Even if you drink.
Author azsinglegal Posted October 13, 2011 Author Posted October 13, 2011 If a man has a small dick he's going to be insecure about it no matter what. So saying you didn't know it was an insecurity of his is a lame excuse. Just because he didn't tell you about his insecurity doesn't mean he didn't have one. How would you feel if he told all his buddies in front of you, you had a big, loose, flappy vagina or that it stunk? You'd throw a fit. It's virtually the same thing. You need to learn to be tactful and respectful. Even if you drink. It actually wasn't small, but that's neither here not there. Like I said...learning experience. This isn't that recent either. If he talked about my vagina, like you said...I'd just dump him. I wouldn't stick around and seek revenge for the next few months out spite. But that's just me...
ShannonMI Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 He was sending me articles for months after we broke up about why women shouldn't talk about it and how it effects men and blah blah blah. This was a while ago but I was wondering what the collective here thought. It's a super touchy subject. Their dicks are an extension of their manhood and if they have a small one, then they feel like less of a man. For future reference, don't EVER talk about a man's penis. Unless of course it's big and delicious.
ShannonMI Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 It actually wasn't small, but that's neither here not there. Like I said...learning experience. This isn't that recent either. If he talked about my vagina, like you said...I'd just dump him. I wouldn't stick around and seek revenge for the next few months out spite. But that's just me... What kind of revenge was it? Just out of curiosity
Imajerk17 Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 (edited) You're HOW OLD and you wouldn't know enough to not talk about it?? I'm surprised he didn't dump you at the time. Edited October 13, 2011 by Imajerk17
Imajerk17 Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 I'm also a little confused as to why you treasure your relationship with your boyfriend so much. You made fun of his manhood and he has been trying to "get revenge" ever since. Wow, go you.
ShannonMI Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 You're HOW OLD and you wouldn't know enough to not talk about it?? I'm surprised he didn't dump you at the time. She was drinking and obviously lost her filter. Not an excuse, but this is most likely why she said what she said.
Author azsinglegal Posted October 13, 2011 Author Posted October 13, 2011 You're HOW OLD and you wouldn't know enough to not talk about it?? I'm surprised he didn't dump you at the time. I said it wasn't recent. But yeah...I sometimes didn't think before I spoke. My mouth has gotten me into trouble on more then one occasion. I remember the conversation, but they were his friends, not mine. The entire night was discussing sex, sexual acts, and stuff like that...so I just really went along since I didn't know them and was trying so hard to fit in.
Author azsinglegal Posted October 13, 2011 Author Posted October 13, 2011 She was drinking and obviously lost her filter. Not an excuse, but this is most likely why she said what she said. Yes...booze can be bad..mmmmkay?
Imajerk17 Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 Everyone makes mistakes, and that said, I still would have been pissed. It's not quite an unforgivable transgression, but I would want her to apologize deeply. And if I couldn't get over it, I would end the relationship. Staying around "trying to get revenge" isn't healthy for anyone.
Author azsinglegal Posted October 13, 2011 Author Posted October 13, 2011 I'm also a little confused as to why you treasure your relationship with your boyfriend so much. You made fun of his manhood and he has been trying to "get revenge" ever since. Wow, go you. I'm not with this guy anymore. I can't edit the original post. This is an EX boyfriend.
ShannonMI Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 I said it wasn't recent. But yeah...I sometimes didn't think before I spoke. My mouth has gotten me into trouble on more then one occasion. I remember the conversation, but they were his friends, not mine. The entire night was discussing sex, sexual acts, and stuff like that...so I just really went along since I didn't know them and was trying so hard to fit in. HIS friends? Oh sh*t. Yeah that's worse actually.
Author azsinglegal Posted October 13, 2011 Author Posted October 13, 2011 HIS friends? Oh sh*t. Yeah that's worse actually. It's interesting, because looking back I see how disrespectful it was to even mention it. At the time...I didn't really "see" it. Was curious if this was an immediate deal breaker for most. As it should've been in my case.
ShannonMI Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 It's interesting, because looking back I see how disrespectful it was to even mention it. At the time...I didn't really "see" it. Was curious if this was an immediate deal breaker for most. As it should've been in my case. Yes, the alcohol clouded you and you didn't see that it wasn't something you should have said. Lesson learned.
ChessPieceFace Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 A woman telling ANYONE a guy's penis is small (unless it's anonymously on the internet, with the goal of looking for sex advice) means an instant end to that relationship. Even if it's a friendship. That's the end. If the woman did it in PUBLIC, she'll be lucky if he doesn't cause physical violence as well. The exception would be if the guy's penis is average AND you think it's perfectly fine, but he's insecure about it. In that case, bringing it up in public like you did would still damage the relationship but not necessarily destroy it. I find it hard to believe you didn't know this. I also find it hard to believe your friends didn't know this. I wonder if your female friends purposely tricked you into saying it.
ShannonMI Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 A woman telling ANYONE a guy's penis is small (unless it's anonymously on the internet, with the goal of looking for sex advice) means an instant end to that relationship. Even if it's a friendship. That's the end. If the woman did it in PUBLIC, she'll be lucky if he doesn't cause physical violence as well. The exception would be if the guy's penis is average AND you think it's perfectly fine, but he's insecure about it. In that case, bringing it up in public like you did would still damage the relationship but not necessarily destroy it. I find it hard to believe you didn't know this. I also find it hard to believe your friends didn't know this. I wonder if your female friends purposely tricked you into saying it. She said it in front of HIS friends. A big no no. And physical violence? That's a bit extreme don't you think? I could see him cursing her out in front of them or thinking of a nasty come back, but violence is a bit much. I would hope the size of his dick didn't matter THAT much.
dispatch3d Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 You're drinking at a friend's (read: hammered), your NEW girlfriend mentions your penis size that you are insecure about it so you become enraged and lash out at her. This is only AFTER other women there were talking about THEIR man's penis who were also present. - Would you break up with her? - Would you stay with her just to wait until the right time to get revenge? Regardless of the situation surrounding the incident, talking about another guys penis is off limits (unless you are saying he's huge). So yeah, you were out of line. Does your mom constantly talk to you about your dad's penis? I hope not. He's a pansy for not being an adult and confronting you about it afterwards, as well as not saying anything when you started talking about it (all he has to say is don't talk about my dick). Him taking revenge is childish.
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