somedude81 Posted October 16, 2011 Posted October 16, 2011 Make the most of it or do something about it. No one is ever born with everything they ever wanted. Why have people come to expect that? Since when did admitting, "Yes, this is a disadvantage" automatically get extrapolated to, "I'm disadvantaged, I'm doomed, the world is unfair!" instead of, "Everyone has their own disadvantages and it's okay"?? Yeah, for me it's been pretty much not OK. For all I know, being short has absolutely crippled my dating life. It's not so much a disadvantage as it's a handicap. The first 30 years of my life have been garbage and I feel that my entire youth has been wasted because I'm short. And I have little hope of it getting better in the future.
iris219 Posted October 16, 2011 Posted October 16, 2011 Yeah, for me it's been pretty much not OK. For all I know, being short has absolutely crippled my dating life. It's not so much a disadvantage as it's a handicap. The first 30 years of my life have been garbage and I feel that my entire youth has been wasted because I'm short. And I have little hope of it getting better in the future. Your entire life has been a waste because you haven't been successful with dating? It's very sad that your life contains no other meaningful aspects. If that's really the case, I suspect dating would be equally difficult if you were 6'.
somedude81 Posted October 16, 2011 Posted October 16, 2011 (edited) Your entire life has been a waste because you haven't been successful with dating? So you would be perfectly fine if you never dated, never had a relationship, had sex very infrequently, while having the normal human desire to do so? I suspect dating would be equally difficult if you were 6'.I completely disagree. I have no doubt that many women have rejected me just because I'm short, through no fault of my own. Make me 6' and all the woman who thought, "He's a great guy, too bad he's short," wouldn't have felt that way. And lets not discount the girls that do it unintentionally also. We all know that physical attractiveness is important. And height is part of that package. If a girl isn't attracted to me, we'll never be more than friends. Edited October 16, 2011 by somedude81
iris219 Posted October 16, 2011 Posted October 16, 2011 So you would be perfectly fine if you never dated, never had a relationship, had sex very infrequently, while having the normal human desire to do so? My life would still be meaningful because my life is not defined by who wants to sleep with me. I may never have children, something I desire, but I will still have a meaningful life in other ways. If having children was the ONLY way I defined a meaningful life, than I'd be pretty unfulfilled. Fortunately, there are countless ways to have meaning in one's life. You should be continually striving to find and add purpose to your life in a variety of ways.
somedude81 Posted October 16, 2011 Posted October 16, 2011 I didn't even mention children. I hadn't even thought about it. So that's potentially a huge negative, one that may be more apparent when I'm older. I was simply talking about going through live "alone" with no companion. No one to love and all the other pluses that come from having somebody like that in ones life.
iris219 Posted October 16, 2011 Posted October 16, 2011 I didn't even mention children. I hadn't even thought about it. So that's potentially a huge negative, one that may be more apparent when I'm older. I was simply talking about going through live "alone" with no companion. No one to love and all the other pluses that come from having somebody like that in ones life. I wasn't saying anything about you and children (it's not all about you ). I was comparing something I want and don't have to something you want and don't have in order to make the point that it's possible to have a full, satisfying life without it.
Imajerk17 Posted October 16, 2011 Posted October 16, 2011 Cripes. I've been accused of having a negative attitude towards women and their crazy screening mechanisms, and even I think that some of you guys need to stop whining. Why should a woman be with you if she doesn't find you attractive? The world doesn't owe you a romantic relationship nor does it owe you a regular sexual partner. Would you be willing to date someone you didn't find attractive? The great thing about being a shorter guy is that your personality accounts for a lot more. That said, I don't think that self-pity is a turn-on for that many girls.
somedude81 Posted October 16, 2011 Posted October 16, 2011 Cripes. I've been accused of having a negative attitude towards women and their crazy screening mechanisms, and even I think that some of you guys need to stop whining. Why should a woman be with you if she doesn't find you attractive? The world doesn't owe you a romantic relationship nor does it owe you a regular sexual partner. Would you be willing to date someone you didn't find attractive? The great thing about being a shorter guy is that your personality accounts for a lot more. That said, I don't think that self-pity is a turn-on for that many girls. Yeah, lets see how positive you can be if you never been in a relationship and been rejected by every single girl you've ever been interested in. And no, the downfall for being a shorter guy is that you personality accounts for a lot more. You need to be very charming, have unshakable confidence or have killer game. Without any of those, women will never give you a chance. Or be rich, but then you'll just have gold-diggers.
Imajerk17 Posted October 16, 2011 Posted October 16, 2011 Yeah, lets see how positive you can be if you never been in a relationship and been rejected by every single girl you've ever been interested in. And no, the downfall for being a shorter guy is that you personality accounts for a lot more. You need to be very charming, have unshakable confidence or have killer game. Without any of those, women will never give you a chance. Or be rich, but then you'll just have gold-diggers. Alright then, go ahead and cry yourself to sleep every night.
Shaun-Dro Posted October 16, 2011 Posted October 16, 2011 At 5'8 on a good day i have the same experience taller women are the ones into me from the get go Women a few inches below me around 5'5 and 5'6 worry that their taller then me in heels The women who are most angry or vicious towards my height are the real short ones,women around 5'2 have somehow claimed that im so short and liek their height Maybe its becasue really short women want to compensate for their lack of height and live vicariosuly through their tall boyfriend or something? but for whatever reason some of these women have a real disdain for shorter men,i gues some women are so vain that a man has to be a foot taller then them or they cant feel "feminine" I don't understand this at all. I've always messed with shorter women and I'm only 5'6 if that! Women between 5'0 and 5'3 always threw out hints in my direction, while women my height or taller totally ignored me.
AHardDaysNight Posted October 16, 2011 Posted October 16, 2011 I am average height, and it has never helped me. I still strike out with women.
somedude81 Posted October 16, 2011 Posted October 16, 2011 Alright then, go ahead and cry yourself to sleep every night. That's the best you can do Though I would have loved to see how you could stay positive with my circumstances. I am average height, and it has never helped me. I still strike out with women. Aren't you overweight and have strong social-anxiety? Don't you think those might take priority over being normal height?
Imajerk17 Posted October 16, 2011 Posted October 16, 2011 (edited) That's the best you can do Though I would have loved to see how you could stay positive with my circumstances. Aren't you overweight and have strong social-anxiety? Don't you think those might take priority over being normal height? I honestly have no idea how to handle your circumstances. I mean, I'm short too AND I'm in my 30's, and I have all the charm of a rock, but unlike you, I have no time to sit around and whine. I'm instead out approaching and dating women. Including women YOUR age and YOUNGER THAN you. Haha. There are plenty of resources out there for men who want to learn to date women. Why don't you go take a Pickup101 seminar or something? Edited October 17, 2011 by Imajerk17
azsinglegal Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 Ya know what? since I stopped being fat I get it. I'm not bitter towards women who wouldn't date me because of my weight. I don't view them as shallow either. I just view it as me leveling the playing field. Except, i'm now in better shape than most of those women (almost 30 waist) & their insecurity plus them telling me I don't need a 6-pack is a major turn-off. I don't need a 6-pack to get women. I know this. I want one for myself for my 40th birthday. But, I only lift 3 days a week. It's all I need. it's mostly diet on my part. Thank you. I've also been overweight so I get it. I can't be with someone who is lazy and wants to sit around and eat, or go out to dinner all the time...it clashes with all the lifestyle changes I've made. I lift heavy weights 3-4 days a week and do heavy cardio/legs 2-3 days a week, depending on when I work out with my BF. He's a HEAVY lifter and works me over pretty hard at the gym. I take one day a week off. I'm not saying I want a 6 pack man. I'm just saying I want someone I can spend time with doing things we're both interested in. I like going to the gym with someone, trying new recipes, running with my dogs, being outdoors...I'm probably not going to find that with someone who's an obese couch potatoe. Not judging, just saying lifestyles are different. I've dated several men who aren't picture perfect bodies, but they work out and stay in shape the best they can for their body structures. I'm FAR from perfect, but I put in the effort. People see "going to the gym" and assume I'm a snot and won't date someone overweight. When in fact, one of the best in shape man I was ever with was in the Navy and he was a big dude - but ran fast as hell and worked out like mad, he inspired ME.
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