For Women, how important is the guy's voice Pitch and personality matureness?

[quietGuy13]

I have a semihigh voice and also i have a childish personality.

 

From what i've seen so far in my life, Most Women seem to like guys with a deep voice OR at least some kind of competenet fluent voice, good communicator. And they think guys who are cute /quiet/childish are stupid.

 

Do i have any chance with women then?

 

At work, back when i had employment, the women my age or younger they were nice to me...but i knew they were faking it, i knew they taught i was weird and stupid cause i have a soft personality and soft childish voice.

They didn't take me seriously to be in their same level. That's why perhaps they were never interested in me.

 

I'm male early 30s. But what? This is how i am, i'm not gonna magically turn into a mature , loud voice , proficient comunicator in 1 day or even at all. The only people that have accepted me have been foreign shy girls.

 

Any comments appreciated.

[TheSingleGuy]

You have to retrain your voice to be more masculine & non-nasally. I bought a self help book a few years back and followed the advice. I had sore throats for a few weeks. But now, women compliment me on my voice all the time.

 

Yes, women will definitely screen men on voice tone.

[azsinglegal]

I don't think I ever noticed a man's voice so much honestly...

 

But my man acts like a giant toddler. He makes me laugh. It's one of his most charming qualities. Of course, he only acts like this around me...and it's not ALL the time.

 

He's responsible and mature when he has to be and the situation calls for it.

[Lucky_One]

QuietGuy, have you ever had your testosterone level checked?

 

Testosterone is the hormone that makes a man's voice deepen, keeps bone density, keeps muscle mass, and helps keeps men from depression.

[OnyxSnowfall]

I view extroversion as more commonly associated with childishness... but I don't instantly equate extroversion nor introversion into it.

 

With that said, I'm not particularly fond of effeminate voices. They are certainly not deal-breakers for me, but I do take great pleasure in sounds that are pleasing... my current lover has an amazing voice and it is one of the shallower qualities I appreciate about him.

 

I knew a male who was very shy with a very feminine voice. The females in our classes mostly regarded him as sweet and friendly... and very, very homosexual (despite his attempts at trying to communicate he was straight).

 

I'll be blunt:

 

He simply was unable to engender lust within them (myself included... we spent lots time together doing projects and studying --- one day he stuttered to me that I had very beautiful eyes and he put his hand on my shoulder, and I simply smiled and thanked him but... even though I knew it was probably hard for him to utter that forth to me, there was just nothing to reciprocate. He WAS sweet and nice, but there was just no sexual attraction).

 

The issue wasn't his voice nor even his shyness... those just emphasized other things like the fact he mostly seemed like a helpless push-over. The most I felt was bad for him. Other males would taunt him and he would just look down - I ended up telling them to leave him alone whenever I witnessed it - I imagine he was treated that way by other males frequently though and perhaps for a lot of his youth (we went to school together from junior high to early college and he remained pretty much the same through-out all those years).

 

There was really only room to have sympathy for him. It's like he just generated nurturing instincts within the females around him... and he seemed more like a relative than a potential romantic partner. Someone vulnerable that needed to be protected and held up, not licked, sucked and ****ed

 

If you feel weak and portray weakness, I'm not sure how hot that will make girls feel around you...

 

...

 

You're going to need to have some other aspect that draws girls in if you're going to continue seeming frail and needy. There are plenty of females who have martyrdom complexes but they are generally drawn to crueler types that they hope to "change/fix"... rather than nervous / kind / lonely / desperate / horny types.

 

Regardless, you gotta figure out how to build confidence. It won't guarantee results, but at least you'll be happier with yourself

Edited October 13, 2011 by OnyxSnowfall

[azsinglegal]

QuietGuy, have you ever had your testosterone level checked?

 

Testosterone is the hormone that makes a man's voice deepen, keeps bone density, keeps muscle mass, and helps keeps men from depression.

 

My ex did this and it changed his voice. Didn't change the fact that he's a douchebag tho.

[CarrieT]

I have to admit that I corresponded with a guy for several weeks -- and was getting very interested -- until I heard his voice...

 

It was odd because he was a fairly high-powered fire-fighter; taught fire-jumping, had a decent cut-and-built body, and LOOKED more manly than his voice his belied.

 

It was so high and squeaky as to be an immediate turn-off. But I was looking for a Dom and wanted a deep voice in my ear; not Mickey Mouse's...

[thatone]

i've rejected women before for having a 'lazy' southern accent.

 

i'm sorry, but if you have a college degree, you should be able to try to speak properly at least during the first conversation.

[ChessPieceFace]

My belief is personality matureness has as importance of correctly grammar.

[OnyxSnowfall]

My belief is personality matureness has as importance of correctly grammar.

 

Lol?

 

[AHardDaysNight]

You can go to speech therapy, but I've learned through vocal training (for singing) that a person's voice is usually adapted, and can't really be changed.

 

I will always have a singing voice of bass-baritone with the low notes of tenor. I can talk lower, but generally, unless I'm thinking about it, I can't really adapt my voice. It's a part of my personality.

 

The same is probably true for you.

 

The lucky thing is, though, that there is probably a girl out there who won't mind, or will find it sweet. Like all women react differently to height, or hair color, all women react differently to voices.

[AHardDaysNight]

And I also wanted to say that your childish personality is probably what you need to work on. Not your voice.

 

Some women like child at heart men. What they mean by this, though, is:

 

"I like a guy who enjoys kid things, and has a childlike essence to him, but can be the adult (stand up to people, make decisions, be a man) when the time for that comes."