Heartbroken, and still in love. Should i still hope to get back together?

[burton928]

ok heres my situation. ive been going out with my girlfriend for a year and a half now. and all of a sudden out of the blue she wants to break up with me saying she is unhappy anymore. she says it isnt me but shes getting rid of me. this is also the first person i ever fell in love with. not the first long term relationship ive had but she is the first one ive fallen in love with.

 

she says she wants to be single and enjoy her single life as a teen. she is 18 and im 19. she still lives at home and isnt very independent at all. all this crap happened to start about a month ago when she started hanging out with all her friends again. and all her friends are single as well. and when she broke up with me on tuesday her friends had sad something to her earlier in the day and made her choose to break up with me.

 

the funny thing is that when im not around she acts like this. she never wants to talk to me or even acknowledge im around because her friends are more important than anything. but when im home she is always saying how she loves me how much it isnt fair that i leave all the time and how she wants to marry me and be with me forever. take for instance this past sunday i was with her and i had to leave. she continued to say it isnt fair i had to leave her all the time and she was somewhat crying about it. saying she would never leave me wanted to be with me forever and saying that she wanted to marry me. i believed her when i left then i did nothing to her monday or tuesday and all of sudden she wanted to break up. but like ive said we are absolutely perfect together when we are together side by side.

 

everyone i talk to says i should just let her go and if it was meant to be she will come back. but im so afraid because with her friends telling her things she wont ever make her own decision on the matter. i mean i love this girl with all my heart and soul and shes just throwing me away for her friends it seems. she says she doesnt want to be in a relationship but shes saying she would like to talk to other guys and go do stuff with other guys so im confused there too. i know i should let her go and she would possibly come back but im afraid that she wont come back at all. and it hurts because i love this girl and i never thought of leaving her ever. i promised her and she promised and i was keeping my promise. there were times when i should have left her before because of something she did to me but i never did leave her becuase i was so much in love with and i wanted to work everything out. but she isnt like that at all. she always runs away from a problem.

 

i went to her house on friday and when i got there she wanted to give me a hug and when i gave her a hug she said i love you to me first. and she said she was sorry about all of this. then she told she just needed time to straighten out her life. im confused about that cause my family is telling me it sounds like she has another guy or wants to meet another gut other than me. then when she said that it seemed like she would come back to me and i told her i would wait for her to figure out what she wants. i just hope she doesnt go out and mess around with another guy. she tells me she doesnt want a relationship right now but im afraid she is going to do something stupid. she says she still loves me and everything and i dont know what she has to get her life straightened out for but whatever i guess. im just going to wait for her and hope to god she will come back to me becuase im so much in love with this girl it hurts. well anyone with any advice please help me out.

 

i dont know what to do because im in love with her so much and ive tried everything to get her back and none of it has worked. i just need someone to tell me that there is still possibly hope because she wont tell me that. please help me out

[burton928]

i know this is long but somebody please help.

[MESO]

I know you love her but you cant sit and wait for her...

 

Go out and be active, be with friends

 

The best advice i can give is give her space and maybe shell miss you and want you back...dont push her and beg, that will only distance her more from you...

 

But most importantly dont wait by the phone waiting for her to call....

 

Take some time to think about what you really want and try your best to move on....

 

That way if she ever does come back it will be your decision whether she is worth it or not...

 

They say things like "i love you" and "you are so great"...but the bottom line is they dont wanna be with us anymore...they obviously dont feel the same way as we do