StellaA Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 So...as many of you will know I broke up with my ex. He dumped me. He had to go into hospital with bipolar for a couple of weeks, we lived together and we gave up the flat and he returned home. He told me he couldn't handle a relationship right now and didn't know how he felt. I was devastated. I begged him to come back and he wouldn't. 3 months later he has now asked to give us another go...I'm due to go away on Monday and the timing has not been great! I was feeling better and now I am back to square one. My family are all really angry and I now have to cope with that aswell. I'm feeling really on the edge
Author StellaA Posted October 13, 2011 Author Posted October 13, 2011 Yeah! It makes me feel really on the edge
antz2411 Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 since it is bad timing as of now.. why dont you just try to live and enjoy life without him? after all you're the one who got dumped. he wanted to make his bed let him lay on it right?
Author StellaA Posted October 13, 2011 Author Posted October 13, 2011 Yeah.....very true! I guess if he loves me he will wait
Author StellaA Posted October 13, 2011 Author Posted October 13, 2011 No TheDovic..............what would your advice be?
Zabs Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 There's a song in there! Hey Our Stella...do you know A Tribe CalledQuest? Stressed out? Do you know what you need to do? Re-Frame! At the end of the day, it took him 3 months to realise...if you go away and he changes his mind..he never meant it in the first place xx ps...as your friend, I would remind you I have the same diagnosis too;)
Zabs Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 Not so bad r kid...had great news today so slightly blipped!..:cool:Been thinking about you guys today and hoping there was some good news too... You have the upper hand Stella...;)you just have to realise it...everytime I think 'oooooh' that feeling of uncertainty, I think of you guy and it gives me strength. Don't be fooled...I am feeling as anxious as you guys too...it's just:lmao: the ration is lower for me 70/30 atm...but the pressure will increase soon...but this is something I willnot defer on..I WILL NOT ACCEPT LESS THAN MY WORTH! And that's what I keep saying to myself... I am a bit blipped right now as I said :Dbut you know what...since I have changed my thinking..and become more confident and self aware..it ain't just guys that want to get to know me...do you know what I mean? Nuff love, Z x
Author StellaA Posted October 13, 2011 Author Posted October 13, 2011 Zabs.....you sound cheery today, it's gd to hear from you. Is the 70/30 thing about an ex? yeah i do have upper hand although it's tough with the family
Zabs Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 Sure yeah...the percentage is increasing all the time. I posted in a thread before about him being widowed....but if you read between the lines...it is just another game to get me to respond! He is irritated that I appear no bothered and feels like he is losing control...and me..so he up's the ante...but little does he realise that he is revealing more and more about his feelings out f desperation...which is what he should have done much earlier and we wouldn't be in this horrendous mess! Other than that, I am good honey. What do you think your percentages are at the moment in terms of YOU being the one in the driving seat? Personally, I view your as quite high but I suspect you won't our Stella xx Zabs xx
Author StellaA Posted October 14, 2011 Author Posted October 14, 2011 Hi Zabs......so do you wnat to get back with him? Ummm....percentage, I don't know. It is all in my hands now but I kinda don't want to make the decision. I know there is no rush and in the end if he means what he says then he will wait for me. I guess if he isn't there then it wasn't meant to be? I love him but don't know whether he is good for me? It will also isolate me from my friends and family if I go back out with him. Is love enough?
Farrah Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 We gotta change what doesnt work . Same thing gives same results. Do you want to break the pattern.Disappear. So...as many of you will know I broke up with my ex. He dumped me. He had to go into hospital with bipolar for a couple of weeks, we lived together and we gave up the flat and he returned home. He told me he couldn't handle a relationship right now and didn't know how he felt. I was devastated. I begged him to come back and he wouldn't. 3 months later he has now asked to give us another go...I'm due to go away on Monday and the timing has not been great! I was feeling better and now I am back to square one. My family are all really angry and I now have to cope with that aswell. I'm feeling really on the edge
Author StellaA Posted October 14, 2011 Author Posted October 14, 2011 I am a bit confused by your message?
Mack05 Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 I am a bit confused by your message? And I am confused by her constant :rolleyes: when Farrah replies to my posts..
Farrah Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 I dont know you whole story but from what I gather is your trying to make your relationship work.If one strategy is giving you the same results do something different it is bouns to give you different results. My husband and I got back 11 times same ole pattern...blows up every 30 days same ole way..So I am doindg somethind differently. Because I know If I went the **** would hit the room next month.Hopefully it makes sense.All Im saying dont repeat the same thing again and again to get different result think of a different approach. I am a bit confused by your message?
Farrah Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 Its only a smiley face...lol And I am confused by her constant :rolleyes: when Farrah replies to my posts..
Mack05 Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 Its only a smiley face...lol this is smiley face This is rolling your eyes and being sarcastic
Farrah Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 Its only a smiley face just being friendly... lol. I just appreciated that link on emotions so I was complimenting you.Like everyone else Im looking for support thats all. Its only a smiley face...lol
Farrah Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 Sorry if it upset you. That wasnt the intention.Infact I read a couple of your posts your a great writer. Its only a smiley face just being friendly... lol. I just appreciated that link on emotions so I was complimenting you.Like everyone else Im looking for support thats all.
Mack05 Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 Its only a smiley face just being friendly... lol. I just appreciated that link on emotions so I was complimenting you.Like everyone else Im looking for support thats all. Thats cool Farrah, I thought I was annoying you! because this icon (the one you posted on my thread) is the sarcastic (rolling eyes) icon.
Farrah Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 No you're fine.Hope all works out for you:).I actually thought the other rolling the eyes up icon was cute I do that a lot in real life when Im goofy lol... Thats cool Farrah, I thought I was annoying you! because this icon (the one you posted on my thread) is the sarcastic (rolling eyes) icon.
Author StellaA Posted October 14, 2011 Author Posted October 14, 2011 Farrah.....is there a reason you have split up so many times?
Zabs Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 Erm..yeah but on my terms not his... You are scared that's all, once bitten twice shy...but at the end of the day...anything worth having is worht waiting for and you ARE definitely worth it so make him WAIT for it! Have a great vacation Our Stella xx:D;)
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