Glove_slap Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 I used to play a lot of video games. I used to be amazing at it, still am to be honest. I used to dominate in Halo 3 and Modern Warfare 2 (serious) - both games my ex-girlfriend got for me, ever since we broke up - about 1 year + 4 months ago or about 411 days ago I haven't touched a single online game. My records show that the last game I played was about 411 days ago which is the exact date my ex and I broke up. She blamed the entire break up on me and my obsession on video games. Even though i know now the problem wasn't just entirely me, just also had a part in our break up - after all she jumped ship with a new guy right after -. Even though I've been recovering for such a long time, i just can't look at these video games the same. I always hear her voice in the back of my head, I always think about all the times I could have just called her and talked to her instead of playing those video games - I played a lot but it honestly wasn't even that much, she was just a girl that needed A LOT of attention (she CRAVED it). She was the one who bought me those games in the first place, but I can't hold it against her. I loved that girl and I just can't shake those painful memories attached to video games. How can I let go of those memories and learn to love what I love doing again? I learned not to take over my life, I learned my lesson. This time I just want to be happy and enjoy myself, I want those memories to disappear...
betterdeal Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 Maybe you've grown out of those games independently of your break up. I suggest considering something more actual world to focus your skill, attention and competitive streak on, for the many real-world benefits. A martial art, for example. Physically, mentally and socially good for you. Leave the games behind with the old relationship and move onto a new era in your life.
Author Glove_slap Posted October 13, 2011 Author Posted October 13, 2011 Maybe you're right but I still don't want it to haunt me. I just want to overcome it then finally let it go..
betterdeal Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 Maybe the two are symbolically linked, and instead of seeing it as a hindrance, you can see it as a convenient shedding of two skins, as it were.
PelicanPete Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 The memories will go fade in time the more you play, because you will be essentially creating a new meaning and perception as you play them without her. Confronting it and riding it out is the only way to really get over it, because if you stop playing all together, then the last memories you'll have of playing those games would be of when you were with your ex. You could even restart it and play through the whole game with your new mindset, that will definitely help. This is the key to any long term passion or commitment. Making the old new again. Seeing something from more than one angle.
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