Mr. Savage Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 I went to a bar tonight for some wings and a few beers with friends. The bartender was really cute. When we first got there the place was pretty dead, just a couple random people. We got our beers, ordered our wings and I sat and talked to my friend. The bartender girl just sat back kinda in front of us with nothing to do. We locked eyes a few times and she kept playing with hair. I kinda got the vibe she was into me. But me being nervous about opening up to a stranger just couldn't bring myself to talk/flirt with her. So for the couple hours I was there I failed at talking to her. Do you think if I go back next week for wings it will be even harder to get her number. I've heard once you project yourself as being insecure it throws a red flag to women. Should I even try again? Thanks for any help guys.
Nexus One Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 (edited) I went to a bar tonight for some wings and a few beers with friends. The bartender was really cute. When we first got there the place was pretty dead, just a couple random people. We got our beers, ordered our wings and I sat and talked to my friend. The bartender girl just sat back kinda in front of us with nothing to do. We locked eyes a few times and she kept playing with hair. I kinda got the vibe she was into me. But me being nervous about opening up to a stranger just couldn't bring myself to talk/flirt with her. So for the couple hours I was there I failed at talking to her. Do you think if I go back next week for wings it will be even harder to get her number. I've heard once you project yourself as being insecure it throws a red flag to women. Should I even try again? Thanks for any help guys. You can try, but from what I know, flirting with customers is kind of part of the job description of a bartender. But you never know if she's looking for a relationship and finds you attractive unless you have a conversation with her. Ask her what her name is. Then ask her if she's single, if she is, then ask her if she's in the market for a boyfriend. Then ask her if she wants to exchange numbers so you can take her out on a date to get to know her better. Her reaction to that will tell you all you need to know. Edited October 13, 2011 by Nexus One
Author Mr. Savage Posted October 13, 2011 Author Posted October 13, 2011 Yes that seems to be the thing to do. Gonna be tough though. Everyones attention is on that one person and when you start flirting with her you are pretty much giving a show for everyone in there. Even more pressure! I'd almost rather just slip her my number and say use it if ya want and walk out. We'll see what happens if I can pull my balls from my throat and actually stop being a little bitch about it.
Pierre Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 Yes that seems to be the thing to do. Gonna be tough though. Everyones attention is on that one person and when you start flirting with her you are pretty much giving a show for everyone in there. Even more pressure! I'd almost rather just slip her my number and say use it if ya want and walk out. We'll see what happens if I can pull my balls from my throat and actually stop being a little bitch about it. Dude Flirting with a female bartender is the easiest thing to do in the planet. Slipping your phone number to her is a loser move. You want to make a first move that is not really a move. I would say that only works 0.1% of the time.
Eddie Edirol Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 Yes that seems to be the thing to do. Gonna be tough though. Everyones attention is on that one person and when you start flirting with her you are pretty much giving a show for everyone in there. Even more pressure! Yeah but if you do it in front of everyone, she will like how brave you are, and if she turns you down, dont get embarrassed just because youre in front of everyone. People know that guys flirt with her all the time, so its no big deal.
Nexus One Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 I'd almost rather just slip her my number and say use it if ya want and walk out. That's also an option. But I wouldn't say "use it if you want", that sounds kind of unromantic. You'd have to come up with something better than that to say in my opinion if you're going to do it this way.
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