Is this a phase or am i really just over him leaving me this quick?

[momto3boys]

My husband and i separated a month or a month and a half ago. Things have been hard for me at first, but now i dont even really think about them. And to be honest the more i think about my ex and him with another girl and him out having a good old time, it hurts but it makes me want to not see him ever again. Which is impossible considering we have one child together and another on the way. I feel like i dont wanna ever be with him again. It would take ALOT for him to ever get me back. Not saying he'd ever want me back.

 

The way im feeling almost makes me kinda sad because if im feeling this way and im pregnant by him, i;m sure he's feeling the same way about me and i dont know why but i am sad about that. We were married for almost 5 years and youd think id be more upset than i am for longer. I feel kinda cold and heartless. But i guess maybe im also feeling this way because of how horrible he has treated me this past year/ specially the past 2 months.

[ken_25]

hard to say, how long have you been feeling like this? is it possible that you never truly loved him?

[momto3boys]

I just started feeling like this. Im due in a few weeks and he keeps bothering me about coming up for the birth which is what made me start feeling this way. I really dont wanna see him. It may be hormones from the pregnancy or depression maybe? I dont know. Maybe im also just angry? I did love him but honestly he has treated me really bad this past year and has been really mean to me the pst 2 months. He has been emotionally and verbally abusive towards me for the past 2 months and he always made me feel bad about myself. He also emotionally distanced himself from me a long time ago because he has had issue since getting back from Afghanistan.

 

I also feel like maybe im just accepting that he doesnt want to be with me and we will not get back together? Im not sure. I am just feeling very weird about him now.

[ken_25]

I get the impression that there is so much happening right now that you may find yourself being all over the place over the next several months. I wouldn't worry much about phases and just try as hard as you can to not stress for your baby. Put him out of mind as much as possible, for the baby.