sugar_and_spice Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 I recently was contacted by someone on a social networking website asking for 'X' (just an example). Basically 'X' here is both my ex's name and current partner's name!! At first I thought they wanted to get in touch with my current partner, but since my current partner didn't recognise his name, I'm wondering if he is contacting me asking for my ex? I had a really bad break up with my ex so I'm wondering whether to ask if this person is asking about my ex or just assume they are asking about my current partner? Please help.
CarrieT Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 Just ignore them and the issue will resolve itself in due course.
Author sugar_and_spice Posted October 12, 2011 Author Posted October 12, 2011 Well, I do think I should reply, so just wondering what to say.
ShannonMI Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 I recently was contacted by someone on a social networking website asking for 'X' (just an example). Basically 'X' here is both my ex's name and current partner's name!! At first I thought they wanted to get in touch with my current partner, but since my current partner didn't recognise his name, I'm wondering if he is contacting me asking for my ex? I had a really bad break up with my ex so I'm wondering whether to ask if this person is asking about my ex or just assume they are asking about my current partner? Please help. Just ask them. Who are you referring to? X so and so or X so and so and see what they say. If they are referring to your ex, then say you broke up with them and it was a bad breakup.
Author sugar_and_spice Posted October 12, 2011 Author Posted October 12, 2011 (edited) Just ask them. Who are you referring to? X so and so or X so and so and see what they say. If they are referring to your ex, then say you broke up with them and it was a bad breakup. Yeah well, was wondering if it would look odd if I ask whether they are referring to my ex? Edited October 12, 2011 by sugar_and_spice
ShannonMI Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 Yeah well, was wondering if it would look odd if I ask whether they are referring to my ex Do you not want them knowing you are dating someone else? If anything you should want them to know you've moved on. Maybe you should just ignore the message like CarrieT said.
Author sugar_and_spice Posted October 12, 2011 Author Posted October 12, 2011 Do you not want them knowing you are dating someone else? If anything you should want them to know you've moved on. Maybe you should just ignore the message like CarrieT said. I could ignore it, just feel that's a bit rude :/ What I meant was if asking if he's referring to the ex would be odd
serial muse Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 Can you just say something like, "Oh, which X are you trying to get in touch with? I know several." and then learn the answer that way? I don't see why you need to say more than that. And if it IS your ex, then you are free to say, "Sorry, I'm not in touch with X anymore."
Author sugar_and_spice Posted October 13, 2011 Author Posted October 13, 2011 Can you just say something like, "Oh, which X are you trying to get in touch with? I know several." and then learn the answer that way? I don't see why you need to say more than that. And if it IS your ex, then you are free to say, "Sorry, I'm not in touch with X anymore." I guess I could, he had mentioned that the last time he was in touch with X, X and I were engaged, well, coincidently I was to that one but it ended, and now I am engaged to my current partner, so him telling me that doesn't help, though I'm guessing it is more likely to mean the first one?
bigmomma1974 Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 Ask him which X he is referring to since you know more then 1 X. When or if he responds back then you will have your answer. If it is your ex let him know you are no longer in contact with her/him. If its current ask what they are wanting with them.Or simply ask new X if she knows this man/
st11 Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 If you don't know the person and your current partner doesn't know the person what would be the point of responding back? I'd personally wouldn't send a response, because nothing good could come out of it really.
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