Ashlynn87 Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 My Boyfriend of two years broke up with me. We are both 24. He went to an all guys highschool and he attended college. He admitts and is known for moving out randomly and coming back to live with his parents. He is fickle and runs from anything once it gets hard. I know that he loves me. One day he is hot and the next he is cold. we have broken up close to 4 times in the past year all of which were his choice.He comes back and says he was stupid for doing and messed up. But when he does break up he shuts down completely . He not only crushes my heart and i tell him i love him unconditionally and will never stop and only want him. he knows how much breaking up with me hurts me YET he goes on facebook and posts song lyrics and hits on girls he knows i am worried about. ALL WITHIN 24 hours of dumping me. he doesnt act like he even cares. ALL of his friends said that i have been there for him and done all i can and that he is immature and need to grow up. His mother was crying on the phone with me saying she cant believe he did this and that they all love me and cant believe this happened that they wanted us to get married. They think he is just going through a phase. My family on the other hand wants me to completely give up on him and stop letting him walkin in and out of my life. I just would like to know .. is this a facade he is putting up? He has to be bothered by the loss of me... and miss me. I am not looking to get back with him but i dont want to have meant nothing to him either like he is acting. I had to block him from my facebook and i blocked his phone number because his immaturity on facebook. His friends say he stops talking to them randomly for months then comes back. just the day before we broke up he said that he doesnt even like the friends that he is now apparently obsessed with again. All we ever fought about was him not making time for me . Literally one day a week sometimes was all i saw him. He said he is immature and cant give me the kind of commitment he needs. he isnt very attractive but i fell in love with his heart. everyone tells me i was too good for him and outta his league but i fell in love. Do you think he will regret this or does miss me and is just pretending to be okay? how could i mean so little when he was just saying how much he loves me.he is also on antidepressants... because of his bouts of sadness and anxiety which he has had all of his life. is this masking his emotions? he will sometimes skip days of his meds too. idk what to feel except a huge loss and sadness because he seems to be fine . Also he is only about his friends ( i think this is due to the all guys school) he didnt interact with girls like you do in a pubic school and behaves like a 17 year old. he will stay out drinking till 6 am .. and is known for being called a savage because he gets so sloppy drunk.
cptwinks Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 Going through a break up is never easy, I can see you have a lot of questions, but that's normal. You know when I went through break ups I had the same questions, and it was all I ever thought about, dissecting every angle to figure out why? and to bring closure, or if I knew why, then I could medicate the problem in some way. It's tough when you love someone and they walk out of your life. If he's on anti anxiety meds it does mask your emotions, I have several friends who deal with that, so it could be. A common break up reason could be that he doesn't feel he's sowed his wild oats so to speak. I know it hurts, but no one deserves pain or suffering, especially when it comes to relationships since you can't help but feel hurt. What I would suggest is try to do anything you can to get your mind off him, listen to happy music, not music that reminds him of you, do some physical activity as it releases endorphins in the brain, and time heals all, but you don't deserve to be playing like a yo yo. The only thing that is reality here, is that time will heal all wounds and the next couple of months will suck, but it's up to you to ask not why did he leave but you why don't you deserve to be happy? Because you do, you sound sweet, and hang in there, surround yourself with people that make you laugh always helped me.
Recommended Posts