mo mo Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 For nothing. Thanks for nothing! Confused???? Well, I joined this forum in search of answers. I was having issues dating and I was getting very frustrated because I did not really understand where things went wrong in a lot of cases. I did learn some interesting things about women, but I didn't really get any answers about how to deal with my particular issues. I was actually beginning to believe that women are so different than men that I was going to have to let go of my hope of finding the ideal partner and instead settle for someone I could get along with most of the time. About a month ago, I met someone, went on a date with her, and we really really REALLY hit it off. Our background, tastes, and personalities are nearly identical. During this month we have seen each other rather frequently (3x a week on average) and we spent a 4 day weekend together, on her birthday. We can talk to each other about anything because we are both into philosophy, psychology, and we are both open-minded. SOOO after being here for a while and losing hope of finding the ideal girlfriend, I meet someone and she turned out to be the ideal girlfriend. Funny how life works eh? My advice to daters who feel hopeless: hang in there. Someone is out there that you are compatible with. Don't resort to playing games and/or taking the advice of others all the time. Once you find your compatible partner, you will know exactly what to do.
Cracker Jack Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 That's good to know. Congrats, man. Glad things worked out for you in the end. And: Someone is out there that you are compatible with. Don't resort to playing games and/or taking the advice of others all the time.I definitely agree with this.
Author mo mo Posted October 12, 2011 Author Posted October 12, 2011 Congratulations, I wish you all the best for the future and your post has helped me keep the faith because for a few days I was thinking that it is a distinct possibility that I would die alone having never been in a loving relationship. I feel you. Really.. I was really beginning to feel hopeless myself. I met her over OKCupid (and online dating is something I don't really like to do), thinking I just needed a date. She seemed nice enough at first, but we soon realized we are the perfect match for each other. This was very unexpected and very amazing.
Carlos S Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 Aww... That's awesome! If only that would happen for me
OliveOyl Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 Congrats on meeting someone you really click with ! I agree that success in dating is much more about finding a truly compatible person than learning how to work the "game" effectively. After all, most people who want long-term relationships don't necessarily want to get good at "dating."
AHardDaysNight Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 I thought this was going to be an angry post, but it wasn't. Congrats!
Art_Critic Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 This was very unexpected and very amazing. It always is.......
Author mo mo Posted October 12, 2011 Author Posted October 12, 2011 (edited) Congrats on meeting someone you really click with ! I agree that success in dating is much more about finding a truly compatible person than learning how to work the "game" effectively. After all, most people who want long-term relationships don't necessarily want to get good at "dating." Yea, this is exactly what I am trying to say. I always thought that in an ideal relationship I wouldn't have to play games, but a lot of people on here and in my social circle led me to believe that even in long-term relationships, games need to be played to keep interest level high and the balance of power in the right position. Thankfully, those people are dead wrong. This woman puts just as much effort into the relationship as I do and I didn't have to do a single thing to convince her to do so. She's just a good person with a good heart that really appreciates me for me. Edited October 12, 2011 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Nexus One Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 (edited) mo mo, ma man. *Reaches out his fist* Box man, box. I'm happy for you. Edited October 13, 2011 by Nexus One
Anela Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 I'm happy for you. And thank you for posting this. I've been feeling very, very low lately. Well, for over a year now.
FitChick Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 This woman puts just as much effort into the relationship as I do and I didn't have to do a single thing to convince her to do so. She's just a good person with a good heart that really appreciates me for me. This is how it's supposed to be but for some reason most people think they have to be miserable and suffer in relationships. I used to be like that myself until I woke up and realized it was easy with the right person. Things just fall into place. Not that there won't be problems at times, but if you are struggling and anxious and worried and trying to control the person, you are with the wrong person. Period.
Imajerk17 Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 Slow your roll there Turbo. You're only one month into the relationship, it's still early days. I hope that doesn't sound too cynical. Glad to hear about this new girl though!
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