rebeccajones Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 It has been close to a year. I am ok. I have not been serious with anyone else. I have dated many but nothing has developed, mainly because I am not interested or excited about anyone :| atm. I have this feeling or maybe it is a delusion that my ex loves me and that one day soon he will beg me back. Am I crazy? Do you think if I get intimate and let something develop with someone else I will not have this feeling? Maybe so. I don't necessarily want him back, I just have this feeling he will beg me back soon, but I realize it could be a fantasy because I think it would make me so happy if he did :|. On the other hand I am enjoying dating new men, but just have not met the right one. Does anyone else get this feeling? It's like he is sticking to me I can't get rid of his presence. Maybe I need to replace it?
antz2411 Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 It has been close to a year. I am ok. I have not been serious with anyone else. I have dated many but nothing has developed, mainly because I am not interested or excited about anyone :| atm. I have this feeling or maybe it is a delusion that my ex loves me and that one day soon he will beg me back. Am I crazy? Do you think if I get intimate and let something develop with someone else I will not have this feeling? Maybe so. I don't necessarily want him back, I just have this feeling he will beg me back soon, but I realize it could be a fantasy because I think it would make me so happy if he did :|. On the other hand I am enjoying dating new men, but just have not met the right one. Does anyone else get this feeling? It's like he is sticking to me I can't get rid of his presence. Maybe I need to replace it? uhh you're pretty delusional
Author rebeccajones Posted October 12, 2011 Author Posted October 12, 2011 Thank you I need confirmation. Tell me more.
momto3boys Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 i was like that at first, i thought "ok ill move back home and in a week or two he'll be begging me back" but he hasnt. Now i dont think that way. i think i only felt that way because he has done this before but even if he did beg for me back, i wouldnt go back. Too much water under the bridge. Maybe youre just feeling this way because you havent met the right person? Im not sure. I would assume he wouldnt come back so you dont get your hopes up and then if he does, itll be a nice surprise.
Author rebeccajones Posted October 13, 2011 Author Posted October 13, 2011 Hehe yea. I just feel he will but logically he is not in love with me.
bdbmwer Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 I think that you should erase that thought from your mind for 2 reasons. A) untill you stop wishing your ex would take you back youre not truly available to the next person emotionally. B) because if you wait it will take longer. If you move on youre life will be much less stressful and IF he does come back then its a pleasant suprise! And when youve moved on you can truly decide from a neutral position not a deluded one whether its even worth a second shot and if hes the one for you
Author rebeccajones Posted October 13, 2011 Author Posted October 13, 2011 We did everything together and we did alot. I don't get how he could throw it all away. We were always together. I don't get it. These are feelings I still have. I so want to be able to give myself to someone else but I do still have these lingering feelings of my ex at different times. He completely shut down and went in a new direction and focused on his life without me. I know his life is not so great without me but how could he just forget so easily and why am I having a hard time letting go after all this time!!!! I so want to and I will.
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