Gypsie Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 (edited) Sick of this. Every single time lately I get feelings for someone. I always end up disappointed. I am in my early 30's and just over it all with men. I gave everything to my last ex boyfriend who I was with for a year last year. We get into a few normal couple arguments then he gets up and leaves. We were living together and everything. Moved to another town with him. I financially supported him. Looked after him only to get this in return. Still here but on my own now. 7 months later he marries some Korean chick that can barely speak English. That guy pretty much totally destroyed me. Do not know how I got through the start of this year but did. My current ex we dated for a few months. Went away together. Everything was fine till he started to get "too busy" with things. He went out of his way to get me to like him and have feelings for him. Then proceeded to lead me on for a while. I got fed up with it. Tried to talk with him about spending more time together and what was up and he could not compromise on with me at all. Another disappointment. All I did was get a bit huffy with him at times. Apologised after and that was enough to have him disappear and give me the cold shoulder. I just did not know what was going on. Hence why I got like that. I told him that. Still nothing. I did not feel I was clingy or needy at all. I did not contact him everyday. We barely saw each other at all. Very, very hurt he just wanted thing his way. Did not seem to understand my side at all. All he saw was that he was too busy for me and I did not approve of it. I wanted to work something out that would suit the both of us but he did not. Grr. These are just the current ones. Both in less then a year. I treat guys really well only to get it shoved back in my face. Don't understand why I get treated this way. . Edited October 12, 2011 by Gypsie
mike111 Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 These are just the current ones. Both in less then a year. I treat guys really well only to get it shoved back in my face. Don't understand why I get treated this way. . Hey, I am just wondering. Do you consider yourself to be a "care giver" of a person? Some men can't handle that. They feel it takes away from their independence. I was with someone like that and it was hard to take. She wanted to do everything for me. I finally had to leave because of this and other things (this was just one of her issues). But for her, it was controlling behavior. She figured if she could really cater to me, I would not leave her. The opposite happened. She did this with the guy before her, too. And it made him sick. Anyway, just a few thoughts. mike.
Pasttense Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 "We get into a few normal couple arguments then he gets up and leaves." Maybe they are to you but not to him.Tell us some more about them, and how you argued....
mr_sexxxy Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 Translation: I pounded on him and threw a few pieces of kitchenware at his face and crotch. Still here but on my own now. 7 months later he marries some Korean chick that can barely speak English. All I did was get a bit huffy with him at times. Apologised after and that was enough to have him disappear and give me the cold shoulder. ...I treat guys really well...
azsinglegal Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 Did you lose yourself with them? Maybe what they liked was you being independent and making time for them, but then after a while all you were about was him? I know I've made this mistake several times. Batteling now to make sure I'm not needy and insecure the longer we're dating out of fear he's going to hurt me like every other jacktard I dated.
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