The stage where you no longer want to talk about the break up with friends/family?

[MIK1000]

7 weeks after the break up and I think I'm finally at the stage where i no longer want to/have to talk about the break up as a kind of therapy/to get things off my chest.

 

Before, when someone brought it up, I would almost pour my heart out to them and get so much relief from talking it over and getting their point of view. Now, just these past few days, I feel like I don't want to talk about it anymore, I don't want the topics to resurface and I feel like the less said the better.

 

Is this good progress? Did you go through something similar?

[mike588]

7 weeks after the break up and I think I'm finally at the stage where i no longer want to/have to talk about the break up as a kind of therapy/to get things off my chest.

 

Before, when someone brought it up, I would almost pour my heart out to them and get so much relief from talking it over and getting their point of view. Now, just these past few days, I feel like I don't want to talk about it anymore, I don't want the topics to resurface and I feel like the less said the better.

 

Is this good progress? Did you go through something similar?

 

Yea I know what you mean,,,, I'm 2 months into being dumped and a 1st like you I'd pour my heart out to who ever would listen.

 

It rarely comes up anymore, I pretty much know the answers as to why it happened and what to do next. I'm now more curious if it will work out between them now.( ex. back to ex) not hoping/wanting she will come running back.

 

If it doesn't work out I'd like to think: Told you so.

[ffw]

When I first went through breakup, I just told my family & friends its over & never to raise this topic again. Ofcourse, they want to know everything but I didn't responded. Like Mike, I knew why it happened & what to do next. So, basically I never told anyone the reasons & started burying her feelings from the 1st day. Also, personally, I dont like when people feel sorry or show sympathy. Its my way of handling the situation.

[MIK1000]

Yea I know what you mean,,,, I'm 2 months into being dumped and a 1st like you I'd pour my heart out to who ever would listen.

 

It rarely comes up anymore, I pretty much know the answers as to why it happened and what to do next. I'm now more curious if it will work out between them now.( ex. back to ex) not hoping/wanting she will come running back.

 

If it doesn't work out I'd like to think: Told you so.

 

Yeah, pour your heart out to anyone who will listen, even if you don't know them that well. That was me.

 

As you say too, it doesn't really come up anymore. Only person that still talks to me about it my mum but I think she is getting the hint. I also feel that when it comes up with other people, I no longer want to ask to find stuff out about my ex, and what's been going on with her new bf, I don't want to know anymore. Whereas before I would want to know stuff, even if it would hurt me.

 

I'm in kind of the opposite boat to you mike. Because My ex left me while away at abroad for the summer with a boy from the kids camp she was at. Now she's back, she's in a LD thing with the new guy who lives like a 5 hour drive away.

 

We are both intrigued to find out how it goes and if they will last but it's probably best that we just put it to the back of our mind because at first I was expecting it to blow over quickly but now i'm taking the view that it could go on for a year, possibly more and in the end it doesn't really matter how long it lasts because they left us in the end and it's there loss. I'm just concentrating on getting myself in shape, getting some nice new clothes, learning to drive and doing other things to make myself better and hopefully attract the attention of other females. Hopefully next time the ex see's me she will have second thoughts about her decision, hopefully by then i'll be fully over her.

[MIK1000]

When I first went through breakup, I just told my family & friends its over & never to raise this topic again. Ofcourse, they want to know everything but I didn't responded. Like Mike, I knew why it happened & what to do next. So, basically I never told anyone the reasons & started burying her feelings from the 1st day. Also, personally, I dont like when people feel sorry or show sympathy. Its my way of handling the situation.

 

Yeah everyone is different. I know plenty of people that would have dealt with it that way. I've never been one to bottle my emotions though.

 

It's the transition in myself that's interesting me. I can only see it as a positive sign that I no longer feel the need to talk about it. I think I also used to love hearing people tell me that she would come running back. It was like music to my ears.