lovesickpuppy Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 Okay, so I've been NC for 9 days now, after finding out that after he finished me by text for no apparent reason he went off 2 weeks later and had sex with a minor..... He blocked me on facebook for no apparent reason and I've not really had much thought about him since... Up until today, he has unblocked me (which takes 48 hours) and messaged me this: 'im really sorry about everything an it's taken so long to say it. dont worry i wont try contact you again. have a good life' What do you think this is? I know it's obviously an apology...but is he caving in? What do you think about the process in all of this? My friends say he is obviously cut up about what he has done and potentially wants to get back together but definitely wants a reply and to talk again? Do I reply? God I'm so confused!!!!
carhill Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 Reading your first thread on LS, do you really feel this man is a healthy potential for a relationship partner, especially in light of what you shared in your OP here, specifically that you became aware of him having sexual relations with a minor? As a flight attendant, you're well-traveled and meet a variety of people all over the world, or at least in your country. Balance your real world interactions versus this dynamic and compare for health. Is this healthy? Accept his 'apology' and continue NC. He said he won't try to contact you again. Ensure that, and do have a good life. You deserve it
Author lovesickpuppy Posted October 12, 2011 Author Posted October 12, 2011 I don't know how to accept his apology carhill? Because I don't accept it. I know it will have taken a lot of time and pain to swallow his pride and 'apologise' but it's not that easy. Do I reply? Do I ignore? What do I put if I reply?
Mack05 Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 read my "Correct way to heal" post on my signature..
carhill Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 Accepting his apology isn't equal to relieving him of the consequences of his acts. Acceptance is a tool for you to move on. Take the words for what they're worth (you decide that) and accept them for that. Continue on with your life. He didn't request a reply nor attempt to engage you in any way, so no need for a proactive reply.
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