txstate1117 Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 Hello again my friends, I once again have a question regarding a girlfriend whom I think is afraid to commit. I just want a girls advice on how I should ask her if she is ready to commit... that is to being bf/gf labels. A lot of people say that women are afraid of labels but I'm not. I would rather know that my girl is dating me exclusively rather than knowing she is waiting for someone better to come along! She has already mentioned that I'm boyfriend material and I sense that she is as confused as I am. We both live a bout 30 min apart and both are at different colleges but we really get along. I just need to know how to go about asking her if she is ready to commit because we have been dating for 3 months, have had sex, and we just both are very passive and it is the make it or break it time. Plus I don't want to end up in the friend zone with her!
skylarkjv Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 I'm assuming you're in San Marcos by your username? Just curious. If you feel its the time to have the DTR talk, then have it. Sit down at what you think is an appropriate time, and just say "Hey listen, I want you to know I'm committed to this relationship, and I want to make it official that we're exclusive." Bladda bladda blah. Lay your cards on the line, and be straightforward. She'll either think its a great idea or a mediocre one. Either way, you'll know whether you need to dump her or not.
azsinglegal Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 Why would you want to be commited to someone at a different college, while you're in college? "Boyfriend material" means she likes you, but someone better might come along IMO. If we want a man to be our boyfriend, we have no problems being up front about it. She's being flakey because she's not 100% into you. When I want a man to be MY man, I make sure he knows it and has zero questions about my intentions.
Andy_K Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 If she's really into you, by three months she should be closer to the 'L' word than the 'R' word.
skylarkjv Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 Why would you want to be commited to someone at a different college, while you're in college? "Boyfriend material" means she likes you, but someone better might come along IMO. If we want a man to be our boyfriend, we have no problems being up front about it. She's being flakey because she's not 100% into you. When I want a man to be MY man, I make sure he knows it and has zero questions about my intentions. Because its different in Texas. Especially if you go to Texas State. There is quite a bit of inter-dating between University of Texas in Austin, Texas A&M in College Station, Texas State in San Marcos. They are all within reasonable driving distance from each other. Especially if you're both from the same home town but go to different colleges. I know plenty of people that will drive from Austin or College Station or even Waco (Baylor) to go to San Marcos to party. So a relationship between colleges isn't that big of a deal.
azsinglegal Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 Because its different in Texas. Especially if you go to Texas State. There is quite a bit of inter-dating between University of Texas in Austin, Texas A&M in College Station, Texas State in San Marcos. They are all within reasonable driving distance from each other. Especially if you're both from the same home town but go to different colleges. I know plenty of people that will drive from Austin or College Station or even Waco (Baylor) to go to San Marcos to party. So a relationship between colleges isn't that big of a deal. I guess I view college as a place to grow, learn and have fun finding out who I am without so much the drama of having to decide if someone wants to be my boyfriend or not. I still stand by my original post of "boyfriend material" over "boyfriend" though.
skylarkjv Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 I guess I view college as a place to grow, learn and have fun finding out who I am without so much the drama of having to decide if someone wants to be my boyfriend or not. I still stand by my original post of "boyfriend material" over "boyfriend" though. I agree. All the more reason for him to have the DTR so he can find out if she's serious or just toying with him.
Author txstate1117 Posted October 13, 2011 Author Posted October 13, 2011 I just think she is afraid of scaring me off like I'm scared of scaring her off. That's why I feel the right time to have the DTR is now! I feel she thinks she might scare me off if she shows too much interest.
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