nothappyjan Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 How do people keep going with dating and not give up all hope. I'm only in my 20's yet I feel like i've only dated guys who turned out too cause me so much grief. I just feel like i'm losing that belief in happily ever after. It doesn't help that I cant think of one successful relationship that I know in real life, my family are all nice, normal and educated people, yet everyone is divorced and same with family friends etc. It just seems I don't even have any personal examples to look up too. In comparison I have a friend getting married soon and every person in her family and friends circle are still together and divorce pretty much doesn't happen in her cicle. Am I doomed to have disastrous relationships just becuase thats all i've known. Can people honestly break the cycle? Even my grandparents split up back in the day when it was totally socially unacceptable due to an affair.
Lobouspo Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 Look at this whole dating thing right now as a dress rehearsal until you meet the right person. Take something from each experience and learn from it. Work on yourself and cherish and maintain friendships and familial relationships. Be cognizant of any patterns in the relationship failures of your relatives and learn from them and commit not to repeat the same mistakes. In every potential relationship have some degree of caution with eyes wide open but not so much so that you become bitter and jaded where you may sabotage something special. Never settle for less than you deserve and grow into the type of person you yourself would want to settle down with. Hope that helps
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