Vitai Slade Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 I'll tell you... 6 months ago I would have never believed you if you told me that I'd be over the bitch (my ex) to the point that I NEVER want her back. I still think of good times we had, but they are ultimately poisoned by the person I now know she is and the person I have become. I thought she was perfect, but time away from that person gives you a nice picture of who they really are. You don't even have to keep up with them. You'll see it in what they did the entire time they were with you. Things you chose to ignore, chose to overlook. Here's the thing... the pain you feel right now DOES subside with time. I was at the point where I felt I wanted to die. That's how badly it hurt. But I'm so much more alive now. What can you do to get rid of the pain? My biggest and best advice: Find something to occupy you. Namely, yourself. This time of being single is special. This is YOU time. Not for devoting to others, not for sacrifice. This is all you. Build yourself to where you want to be, become the person you want to become. When the time is right, you'll find that person to fill your heart again. But not until you are ready. The faster you get to work on yourself, the faster you become that person you ultimately want to be, the faster you'll find love again. But you must be patient and you must not go looking for it. You must let it find you. Good luck to all of you. Just give the pain time... it really does work. Don't dwell.
StellaA Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 Hi, that's really great news! I so pleased you are in a good place! did your ex ever try and get back with you?
Mack05 Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 Good to hear VS!. I am in a great place too. I was so full of hurt and anger. Now, I don't have a bad word to say about my ex anymore. We just were not suited to one other and seemed to bring the worst out in each other. I hope she is happy and I hope she finds true love. I hope she can take some positives from her experience with me. Personally, I am still a work in progress. Trying to be a better man, each and everyday. To learn from past mistakes and to leave the past in the past where it belongs. I was so gutted in March. Utterly devastated. Now I have a stunning girlfriend, a probable holiday in Columbia and America to look forward to in the next few weeks. I don't want Shackers viewing this post as a way of rubbing it in, who are where I was 7 months ago. Not at all. I just want people to know there is hope. One of my favourite quotes from my favourite movie... "hope is a good thing, maybe the best of things, and no good thing ever dies"
Farrah Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 Very positive very nice...I like that:)) I'll tell you... 6 months ago I would have never believed you if you told me that I'd be over the bitch (my ex) to the point that I NEVER want her back. I still think of good times we had, but they are ultimately poisoned by the person I now know she is and the person I have become. I thought she was perfect, but time away from that person gives you a nice picture of who they really are. You don't even have to keep up with them. You'll see it in what they did the entire time they were with you. Things you chose to ignore, chose to overlook. Here's the thing... the pain you feel right now DOES subside with time. I was at the point where I felt I wanted to die. That's how badly it hurt. But I'm so much more alive now. What can you do to get rid of the pain? My biggest and best advice: Find something to occupy you. Namely, yourself. This time of being single is special. This is YOU time. Not for devoting to others, not for sacrifice. This is all you. Build yourself to where you want to be, become the person you want to become. When the time is right, you'll find that person to fill your heart again. But not until you are ready. The faster you get to work on yourself, the faster you become that person you ultimately want to be, the faster you'll find love again. But you must be patient and you must not go looking for it. You must let it find you. Good luck to all of you. Just give the pain time... it really does work. Don't dwell.
Farrah Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 Nice!! Good to hear VS!. I am in a great place too. I was so full of hurt and anger. Now, I don't have a bad word to say about my ex anymore. We just were not suited to one other and seemed to bring the worst out in each other. I hope she is happy and I hope she finds true love. I hope she can take some positives from her experience with me. Personally, I am still a work in progress. Trying to be a better man, each and everyday. To learn from past mistakes and to leave the past in the past where it belongs. I was so gutted in March. Utterly devastated. Now I have a stunning girlfriend, a probable holiday in Columbia and America to look forward to in the next few weeks. I don't want Shackers viewing this post as a way of rubbing it in, who are where I was 7 months ago. Not at all. I just want people to know there is hope. One of my favourite quotes from my favourite movie... "hope is a good thing, maybe the best of things, and no good thing ever dies"
Farrah Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 Hey nothing wrong with being positive...my world was complete till last Sunday till the truth was no more a truth. The love of my life turns out to be a cheater and Amore to a dozen whores..I joined this forum to help me cope I came upon it out of nowhere.And actually am finding it very theraputic.Good to know there hope **Your post.LOl Nice to see a positive post...
M2155 Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 I believe you. I'm not indifferent yet but looking back I can see some of the things that really were not going well. The flaws are starting to be magnified and my ex's image in my eyes has changed so much. I realize I deserve a stronger more committed partner who treats me better than I let him get away with and of course I feel like I have grown as well. It's really intresting how that is happening.
mike588 Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 Good for you, glad to hear it. I was wrecked when my ex. dumped me for her ex. I walked around like a zombie for the longest time. I'm alittle over 2 months now and am seeing things in a different light. Also with the help from AMAZING people here I'd probably not be so far along in my recovery!!
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