rafael7676 Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 Ok I wrote this once but it got deleted so here we go again. Ive been with this girl for 7 years. We lived in a house together, went on trips, were always together. We were so in love, so insepratable. It was just me and her. She was a good girl, never wanting to party or do anything without me that would make me feel uncomfortable. We got engaged in 2009, and set a date for May 29 of last year. during the course of the engagement, she started to lose trust in me. She thought I was cheating on her with a coworker. I would never cheat on her, I loved her too much. 2 months before the wedding, we were fighting so much that I called it off and we broke up. she was so sad, and I felt so horrible for doing it. She cried and begged me to be with her, and I would do the same, it was a back and fourth thing. We eventually got back together and things were great. In August of this year, I asked her if I could go hang out with my friend that Ive known for 20 years (a guy). she said yes. I went out and me and him went to a bar to have a drink and talk about everything. I got home late 1:30 and she asked where I went. I told her me and my friend went out but I didnt say where. That was a big mistake on my part. the next day she went though my wallet and found a parking pass for the bar I went to and woke me up yelling. She kicked me out and broke up with me. I moved back to my parents house. the next day she begged for me to come back, and I said I wasnt gonna move back in right away, but I wanted to make it work because I loved her so much. We went on a trip to Orlando, and when we came back we broke up yet again. I was so devestated by everything!! 2 weeks passed and I dindnt hear from her, so I texted her several times and emailed her saying I loved her and missed her dearly. She changed her phone number and blocked my email address. Her mother moved in the house. I went to her house begging her back, crying and pleading, and she laughed. She said I was the cause of all the problems in the relationship. I put flowers, cards, love letters on her car and neer got a call from her. her birthday came and I got her a gift card and a card and dropped it off at her work, and got no thank you from her. I asked her to take her to dinner on her birthday and she said no. I still wrote her poems and love letters. I went to her house again and begged and cried for 5 hours!!! She said she met new people and started clubbing and partying with them and that I was a boring person cause I didnt like to do that. Mind you this was someone who wanted to settle down with me, she used to argue with me about it! I ran to my car and cried so hard. she went to my car and told me that she would call me later and give me her new phone number. I was so happy! she called me at 10pm that night but from her moms phone and refused to give me the new number. I begged for it and she said "stop it your pissing me off"! Still I wrote love letters and put flowers on her car and got no response, she never called me. I called her mother crying, asking her what I should do, my ex took the phone and started yelling at me. I cried and pleaded, but nothing. she finally said that on my birthday (OCTOBER 11TH) she would give me a chance and see where we were at. On October 7th, I had a anxiety attack at work (from all my stress) and was rushed to the ER. My family and friend came, and my friend called her mom to tell her Iwas at the hospital. (none of us have her new number) she told my friend that she let her know and she was gonna call me. she never called me or visited me. I was released the next day and called her sisters boyfriend to ask why she never called me. He told me that she had a new guy and was with him. He's 24 years old (shes 30). I was broken to pieces. If you love someone, how can you not make sure theyre ok??? not to mention she told me that on the 11th she would give me another chance. my birthday came and went yesterday, and she never called me. I cried, and cried and cried. I have cried every day for 2 months. Every day. I love her so much, but she doesnt feel the same. All of my friends and family tell me that when we were together, she treated me like crap and always belittled me. I never noticed, maybe I was blind. I'm so miserable! I lost 15 lbs, I cant eat, I dont sleep. I cry everyday. She never calls me. My old neighbor calls me and tells me shes never home till like3-4 in the morning. I have friends, but I can never b=concentrate on them or anything else. I go to the gym and cant even concentrate. All I think of is her. What is she doing? who is she with? Is she ok? nobody matches up to her in my opinion. she was my baby, my good girl, now she goes clubbing and parties. shes with a much younger guy. I dont know her anymore and Ive torn myself to shreds trying to get her back. What do I do??? How do I get past all this pain and suffering. Pople tell me to keep busy, but everything I do reminds me of her. I'm miserable, my chest hurts all the time, and I'm just not myself anymore...
mike111 Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 I'm miserable, my chest hurts all the time, and I'm just not myself anymore... Hey, I have been where you are at. I know it hurts. And the only thing that will heal this is time. mike
Author rafael7676 Posted October 12, 2011 Author Posted October 12, 2011 I know, but it has been so long already and I feel no progress. She has moved on so quick and easy...
mike111 Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 I know, but it has been so long already and I feel no progress. She has moved on so quick and easy... You mentioned dates like oct 11th. Was that this year? Or last year? Sorry for not knowing, your post was pretty long. Even if it's been a year, sometimes it takes a long while. Mine took about 3.5 years to recover from. I hope it won't for you. But it does get better. mike
Farrah Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 First of all please change your user name its depressing and attracts negative energy. Secondly, remember we cannot control our circumstances but we can control "how we react to them" k? I was with the love of my life for one year..my baby did I know he was cheating behind my back with several women?Hmmm so in a nutshell your relationship is onesided your love is onesided...be strong and get your life together again.We are not answerable for how our partners perceive things and we cant tutor them and definitely pointless spying on them.Today, I listened to a good friend of mine she said close facebook.And I did. I loved the feeling I was undercover.Let him wonder where I am . Chase not from my end his...chase not from your end hers my dear:)) Ok I wrote this once but it got deleted so here we go again. Ive been with this girl for 7 years. We lived in a house together, went on trips, were always together. We were so in love, so insepratable. It was just me and her. She was a good girl, never wanting to party or do anything without me that would make me feel uncomfortable. We got engaged in 2009, and set a date for May 29 of last year. during the course of the engagement, she started to lose trust in me. She thought I was cheating on her with a coworker. I would never cheat on her, I loved her too much. 2 months before the wedding, we were fighting so much that I called it off and we broke up. she was so sad, and I felt so horrible for doing it. She cried and begged me to be with her, and I would do the same, it was a back and fourth thing. We eventually got back together and things were great. In August of this year, I asked her if I could go hang out with my friend that Ive known for 20 years (a guy). she said yes. I went out and me and him went to a bar to have a drink and talk about everything. I got home late 1:30 and she asked where I went. I told her me and my friend went out but I didnt say where. That was a big mistake on my part. the next day she went though my wallet and found a parking pass for the bar I went to and woke me up yelling. She kicked me out and broke up with me. I moved back to my parents house. the next day she begged for me to come back, and I said I wasnt gonna move back in right away, but I wanted to make it work because I loved her so much. We went on a trip to Orlando, and when we came back we broke up yet again. I was so devestated by everything!! 2 weeks passed and I dindnt hear from her, so I texted her several times and emailed her saying I loved her and missed her dearly. She changed her phone number and blocked my email address. Her mother moved in the house. I went to her house begging her back, crying and pleading, and she laughed. She said I was the cause of all the problems in the relationship. I put flowers, cards, love letters on her car and neer got a call from her. her birthday came and I got her a gift card and a card and dropped it off at her work, and got no thank you from her. I asked her to take her to dinner on her birthday and she said no. I still wrote her poems and love letters. I went to her house again and begged and cried for 5 hours!!! She said she met new people and started clubbing and partying with them and that I was a boring person cause I didnt like to do that. Mind you this was someone who wanted to settle down with me, she used to argue with me about it! I ran to my car and cried so hard. she went to my car and told me that she would call me later and give me her new phone number. I was so happy! she called me at 10pm that night but from her moms phone and refused to give me the new number. I begged for it and she said "stop it your pissing me off"! Still I wrote love letters and put flowers on her car and got no response, she never called me. I called her mother crying, asking her what I should do, my ex took the phone and started yelling at me. I cried and pleaded, but nothing. she finally said that on my birthday (OCTOBER 11TH) she would give me a chance and see where we were at. On October 7th, I had a anxiety attack at work (from all my stress) and was rushed to the ER. My family and friend came, and my friend called her mom to tell her Iwas at the hospital. (none of us have her new number) she told my friend that she let her know and she was gonna call me. she never called me or visited me. I was released the next day and called her sisters boyfriend to ask why she never called me. He told me that she had a new guy and was with him. He's 24 years old (shes 30). I was broken to pieces. If you love someone, how can you not make sure theyre ok??? not to mention she told me that on the 11th she would give me another chance. my birthday came and went yesterday, and she never called me. I cried, and cried and cried. I have cried every day for 2 months. Every day. I love her so much, but she doesnt feel the same. All of my friends and family tell me that when we were together, she treated me like crap and always belittled me. I never noticed, maybe I was blind. I'm so miserable! I lost 15 lbs, I cant eat, I dont sleep. I cry everyday. She never calls me. My old neighbor calls me and tells me shes never home till like3-4 in the morning. I have friends, but I can never b=concentrate on them or anything else. I go to the gym and cant even concentrate. All I think of is her. What is she doing? who is she with? Is she ok? nobody matches up to her in my opinion. she was my baby, my good girl, now she goes clubbing and parties. shes with a much younger guy. I dont know her anymore and Ive torn myself to shreds trying to get her back. What do I do??? How do I get past all this pain and suffering. Pople tell me to keep busy, but everything I do reminds me of her. I'm miserable, my chest hurts all the time, and I'm just not myself anymore...
Farrah Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 It can go either way. Your partner moved on...or your partner moved on but realized and turned back when she saw you moved on and had no interest in her. Remember, people want what they cannot have. Sometimes they gotta go through several relationships to back to you. Question is if she does will you take her back?Thats the tricky part because with time our emotions change the feelings lose its intensity all the wrong the did STOPS to hurt.And now you have them begging forgiveness but your on a new chapter.Its sad but 99.9% the case with most relationships.Correct? Hey, I have been where you are at. I know it hurts. And the only thing that will heal this is time. mike
Farrah Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 Hey if it helps.Im one day old beaten and kicked out of his house for the 11th time I spent mmy day at the spa...do something foryourself. And dont stay home hangout with a close friend whose positive energy for you.Talking venting, gyming, massage,jogging ,vacation,long drives, theraputic music, meditation...anti depressants pick the one u like.... Hey, I have been where you are at. I know it hurts. And the only thing that will heal this is time. mike
Author rafael7676 Posted October 12, 2011 Author Posted October 12, 2011 You mentioned dates like oct 11th. Was that this year? Or last year? Sorry for not knowing, your post was pretty long. Even if it's been a year, sometimes it takes a long while. Mine took about 3.5 years to recover from. I hope it won't for you. But it does get better. mike oct 11th of this year (yesterday)
mike111 Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 oct 11th of this year (yesterday) Ok...........well a day won't accomplish much. Keep talking here when you need to. You may feel this way for a few more weeks to come. But, as i said, it will get better Be well best you can mike
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