mrgoodcat Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 (edited) No,sorry, this is not a tutorial, thread, actually hoping to get some experience and input of how your are supposed to act and what to do when you go together in the apartment/bedroom/bed. Hardest part for me is to actually move into kissing from just a chit chat, especially with someone new. Let alone go into pleasuring her. I get so nervous. I know that probably a little boose will get me rolling in no time, but I'm not a drinker so really need some ideas. Let me try a scenario: We had light lunch, or coffee. She is in my apartment, we're talking shop. She sits on the bed. Do I offer her a massage to start things off? Doesn't seem like a bad idea... maybe then she offers me a massage. Heyooo. Or maybe start talking Jiu Jitsu(since she is familiar with MMA, and I let her put me in a triange choke with her legs). Heyooooooo. Jiu Jitsu could be interesting and I have a lot of ways to approach that topic. #1. Massage #2. Jiu Jitsu #3............ LET US BRAINSTORM. Edited October 12, 2011 by mrgoodcat
carhill Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 Probably better to post this in the sexual area IMO. I recall my first 'transition' with my most significant 'other' began with kissing my exW's neck while she was cooking us dinner at her duplex back when we were dating. Dinner got a bit cold
Author mrgoodcat Posted October 12, 2011 Author Posted October 12, 2011 Maybe mods will move the thread, but all the traffic is here right now. Well, that's interesting. So, basically starts out of a situation. But I take note: kissing the neck.
alphamale Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 but I'm not a drinker so really need some ideas. maybe you should try a drink or two, it'll loosen you up. BUT, if she's already hammered then you may not need any booze, innit?
alphamale Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 But I take note: kissing the neck. the back of her neck, mrgoodkat...
Author mrgoodcat Posted October 12, 2011 Author Posted October 12, 2011 Aye. The back of the neck. So, I have to have her flipped on her stomach then. That goes in line with a massage, but I could just flip her like that after kissing.
Feelin Frisky Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 Dude, she wants to be led if she's sitting on your damn bed. Just go stand in front of her and put your hand out while looking at her hand to let her know that you want her to take your hand. Lead her to stand up and put your arms around her and start making out with her. After that it's on, buddy. You need to know that it's all about action and not thought. Don't even question anything. Be confident and show her what time it is. Come out of your head--completely. It's time to get busy and she wants that, guaran--god damn--teed.
laotzu Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 She looks up, she looks down, she looks back up: kiss her. Every time. Also, if she keeps looking at your lips. Also, if you think "wait, does she want me to kiss her", you should probably just kiss her. As far as the transition? I don't know... I'm not an expert. Usually I'm making out on the couch or something like that, and - if it's been two - three dates, I tell her we can go down to my room as long as she doesn't try to take advantage of me. Something slightly funny. Basically, if you've dated ~3 times and you're kissing - which you should be, by then - and she's in your apartment, just lightly push boundaries and see if you get resistance. If you do, back off, and maybe talk about it. If you don't... keep going.
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