misssmartypants Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 So I've made more than a few posts about being alone and feeling like it would last forever. Since then some things have happened. One is that I have decided to stop worrying about being alone. I was on my bed one evening praying or meditating or what ever you want to call it, and I was very focused on wanting to have a partner, and in the space of about five minutes my best friend, my cousin, and my dad all texted me just to say "hi" and my kids all wandered in for bedtime snuggles. I may occasionally feel lonely, but I am not alone and in nourishing those feelings of loneliness, I was making it my reality. Two is that instead of constantly looking for the perfect guy who is local and smart, and employed and cute and and and . . . . I just relaxed. I have a man in my life. He lives 70 miles away and we are both so darn busy that we never seem to have time and money to see each other. But when we get together, we have a great time, our kids have a great time, and it isn't just sex or partying. Its nice, its pleasant, and then he has to go home or I do. Life is too long to try to force what works for now to fit the mold that we get fed as kids and end up miserable because that was either not meant to be or it was forced to become that too soon. Life is also too short to spend it worrying about what' good, what's going to look perfect or acceptable to others. Anyway, my two cents, since it isn't inflammatory or attention seeking, I am sure it won't get many replies.
WhiteChocolate Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 Congratulations!!! I'm very happy for you XP Now if only you could tell that to my friend who mopes around when sober and then goes partying in an effort to get boys, and ends up wasted and throwing up in the restroom.
Author misssmartypants Posted October 12, 2011 Author Posted October 12, 2011 Congratulations!!! I'm very happy for you XP Now if only you could tell that to my friend who mopes around when sober and then goes partying in an effort to get boys, and ends up wasted and throwing up in the restroom. Throw-up is gross, I hate doing it. That pretty much keeps me from over-doing.
WhiteChocolate Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 Throw-up is gross, I hate doing it. That pretty much keeps me from over-doing. I wish it kept her from overdoing too... I've tried talking to her but she won't hear it. And I'm single so she's like, "It's not like your methods work any better!"
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