one goal Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 The cute chick I posted about in my group at school walking out, I didn't get a chance or the nerve to ask if she wanted to go hangout sometime. Anyways is it okay to ask her maybe if over fall break if we meet up, and hangout because I don't get a chance to talk to her much and tell her I want to get to know her better? Would that creep her at all?
Cracker Jack Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 This girl barely knows you, and you barely know her, since you don't even talk to her. Why would she hangout with you when she doesn't even know you like that? You get to know her better by making small talk with her in class, after class, etc. People keep telling you this. If you can't do that, there's no point in asking her to hangout. Have you ever had at least one convo with her?
Author one goal Posted October 11, 2011 Author Posted October 11, 2011 This girl barely knows you, and you barely know her, since you don't even talk to her. Why would she hangout with you when she doesn't even know you like that? You get to know her better by making small talk with her in class, after class, etc. People keep telling you this. If you can't do that, there's no point in asking her to hangout. Have you ever had at least one convo with her? Yea, lol I talk to her in our group. Just I don't get to have any personal talk, find out more about her, and stuff. Hence why I want to ask her out so I can get to know her better.
skylarkjv Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 Yea, lol I talk to her in our group. Just I don't get to have any personal talk, find out more about her, and stuff. Hence why I want to ask her out so I can get to know her better. When asking a girl out for the first time, always be clear and direct. Have something prepared beforehand. For example: "Hey Sarah, what are you doing Saturday? I'd like to take you out to dinner." If dinner scares you, lunch or even coffee works. Do not make a movie a first date, there is no conversation time in there whatsoever. That line above makes it clear you are interested in possibly dating her and getting to know her. If she says no, then she's not interested. No big deal. If she says yes however, be sure you have a time set in mind. "So I'll pick you up at 8?" There's a reason certain lines sound overused. It's because they work. If she feels that you aren't really interested or that you are low in self-confidence, she generally will turn you down. Go with the tried and true. Especially when you are nervous. If the above is not possible an alternative is: "Hey Sarah. Listen, we should hang out sometime." "Definitely Steve. That would be great." "Awesome. Here let me get your number, and I'll call/text you tomorrow." That gives you a more casual "in", as well as being semi-elusive. You can then plan on how you want to hang out with her, and move things at a slower or much less rushed place. It still however gives her the idea that you are genuinely interested, and have given her a deadline by which she is to expect contact from you. From there its up to you. But whatever you do, don't try the three day rule. It's bull and never helps anybody.
Author one goal Posted October 11, 2011 Author Posted October 11, 2011 Yea I'll think of something to ask tonight or tomorrow to text her. I wanna ask if we can meet up over fall break to work on the project together, and get to know each other better.
Mme. Chaucer Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 Think of something you want to ask her to do with you. Ask her. If she says "yes," have fun. If she says "no," don't ever ask her again and don't ever ask us any more questions about her. Okay?
Cracker Jack Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 Yea I'll think of something to ask tonight or tomorrow to text her. I wanna ask if we can meet up over fall break to work on the project together, and get to know each other better. Texting her isn't gong to help you in the situation, but if you insist.
Mme. Chaucer Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 Texting her isn't gong to help you in the situation, but if you insist. She detests getting texted by guys she doesn't even know.
Author one goal Posted October 11, 2011 Author Posted October 11, 2011 Think of something you want to ask her to do with you. Ask her. If she says "yes," have fun. If she says "no," don't ever ask her again and don't ever ask us any more questions about her. Okay? At the end of the semester can I try again?
Cracker Jack Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 Why would you? If she says no, it means she's not interested. Waiting till the end of the semester doesn't change that.
Mme. Chaucer Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 At the end of the semester can I try again? Dude, when you post stuff like this … I think you're a funny troll.
Author one goal Posted October 12, 2011 Author Posted October 12, 2011 I texted her and she replied tonight. i said "hey whats up? I didnt get a chance to ask you in class today but I was wondering if over break or sometime if maybe we can meet up somewhere and work on our project and hangout or something? I never get the chance to talk to u much or anything in class lol." Was my text not direct enough maybe and she didn't get the impression I was like asking her out maybe? Or did she get the hint and is trying to avoid the question? I reply with a friendly reply just asking where she's going to, but she didnt reply back. Her reply: "Im going out of town on break! but don't worry, I'm going to bring my computer and work on the project still."
Beachgirl8 Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 I avoid your posts usually, but I have to say- SHE ISN'T INTERESTED. Forget it. Find a new victim.. Errr... Girl... Ok. So I don't want to be mean. But please, please, go find a girl that shows at least some sign of interest in you before you make her your next target.
Cracker Jack Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 I agree with Beachgirl, completely. She got the hint, but she ignored it because she's not interested in you. She kept the emphasis on the project and left it at that. Now please, one goal, leave it alone.
skylarkjv Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 "Im going out of town on break! but don't worry, I'm going to bring my computer and work on the project still." Beachgirl & Cracker Jack have it right. She was being nice. It was sweet of her to phrase it like that. It saves you face while letting you know she's definitely not interested. Survey says: move on.
counterman Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 Yep, like everyone else said, she's not interested. I get how it is. One day I bumped into this attractive girl who's in my class. Basically, our talk is the normal bland type of talk and I wasn't feeling anything, but I thought I would ask her out anyways. Even I knew she was going to say no. She doesn't even know you. It's just so random you asking her out. Unless she was attracted to you, but she probably wasn't because if she was, it would have shown. Trust me, I've been in plenty of group situations and there was always some time for me to banter with group members, even 1 on 1. It's really not that hard... and some people gave you great advice in the other thread. All good though, she let you down soft. You can move on and chat to other girls. Seriously, all that time you spent focusing on this girl in your group, you could have spent chatting with other chicks.
Eclypse Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 This isn't the first time a girl has said no to you, and I'm certain you'll keep hounding and pestering her and this will turn into another 500+ reply thread!!
Author one goal Posted October 13, 2011 Author Posted October 13, 2011 So will it be awkward in class tomorrow? What should I say?
Cracker Jack Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 Say nothing, unless it's about the project.
whichwayisup Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 SI texted her and she replied tonight. i said "hey whats up? I didnt get a chance to ask you in class today but I was wondering if over break or sometime if maybe we can meet up somewhere and work on our project and hangout or something? I never get the chance to talk to u much or anything in class lol." Was my text not direct enough maybe and she didn't get the impression I was like asking her out maybe? Or did she get the hint and is trying to avoid the question? I reply with a friendly reply just asking where she's going to, but she didnt reply back. Her reply: "Im going out of town on break! but don't worry, I'm going to bring my computer and work on the project still." She isn't interested, man. She brushed you off. fact that she didn't reply back to where she was going tells you something too. Leave this one alone, she ain't into you. Sorry to be blunt.
whichwayisup Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 So will it be awkward in class tomorrow? What should I say? It'll only be awkward if YOU make it so. Just chill out and let her talk to you. Smile if she looks your way but don't go talk to her. Focus on your school work.
Trimmer Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 It'll only be awkward if YOU make it so. I'm sure that won't happen.
Author one goal Posted October 13, 2011 Author Posted October 13, 2011 Class went okay today. She didn't mention it at all. She did tell me to lay back a little because I've been doing a lot of the group work. Otherwise she was nice as usual. So at the end of the semester, how do I approach her again and ask her to hangout? I really think she's cute, and she's single Im pretty sure.
somedude81 Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 When you get a chance to talk to her, ask her what she does for fun and try to ask her if she's single.
Author one goal Posted October 13, 2011 Author Posted October 13, 2011 When you get a chance to talk to her, ask her what she does for fun and try to ask her if she's single. You mean at the end of the semester when our project is done right? Because if not that's extreamly awkward, and asking she's single? It would be too obvious.
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