IdiotInIowa Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 I am 23 and I am getting married this weekend. I do truley want to marry this woman, and I couldnt picture myself without her. that being said here is the **** I got myself in. Last summber I cheated on her with some girl from a bar who I didnt even exchange names with. One of my good friends was there who kept it a seceret. We will call my friend bob. Fast forward to last weekend. I had my bachleor party. We had fun during the day and ended up drinking beer and shots of whiskey at the bar later in the night. The ladies ended up meeting us at the bar also. My friend bob and I begin arguing, apparently I called his girlfriend trash but I still swear he must have misunderstood me. We start yelling at eachother and I clocked him twice in the nose and he starts bleeding everywhere. My fiance grabs me to the car and we leave and go home to bed. Well my buddy Bob must have been real upset and felt like telling his girlfriend about how I am a peice of **** and I cheated my my fiance who I am to marry in less than a week. Bob's girlfriend creates a fake facebook profile to message my fiance that I cheated on her and that she "felt like she needed to know" This wedding is supposed to happen on saturday and we spent $13,000 on it and her mom now hates my guts and I dont blame her. I know I am a **** up at times, we are all weak sinners. I do want to marry her, and I want to tell everyone my vows in front of the lord and it will be my promise to her. I will be faithful to her always. She has accepted my apologie and will still marry me, but half of the reason is b/c we have spent all the money and family is already in town from very far away. We basically have been crying together for two days, and I hate to see her this way. In all honesty I would just take my own life, but that would hurt her even more, and my family would be scarred for life. I really just wish I was in heaven and nobody ever knew my soul existed. I am also struggling with revenge, I want to forgive my friend Bob b/c I feel like I might seriously injur him. I have told him I am sorry for hitting him, but he will not tell me sorry for ruining my wedding. I don't know how I will even be able to look my future mother in-law in the face at the church. It's all just too much and I am usually half way depresed anyways. Life friggen sucks, but I am not a coward, and I will not take the easy way out. I just needed to type my thought and problems. Thank you if you read this. I don't think I have ever typed something this long or read a thread this long and thought the people who write long threads are idiots to think people really care enough to read a thread this long written by someone they have never met. Well wish me luck, hopefully my wedding goes okay and my bride will forgive me and be happy. thats what is killing me, she might still be sad on her wedding day. It's supposed to be the happiest day of her life and she will just be thinking about me ****ing some bar whore. Okay I'm done typing, back to work, hopefully it all works out.
2sure Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 If it was a fake facebook page, Bob and his girlfriend clearly didnt want this to come back to them. Why on earth did you not just deny it? Say you had no idea who messaged her or that clearly Bob and his trashy gf are being spiteful. But anyway, apparently you did the right thing and admitted it under pressure. If she wants to marry you and hold this over your head for years...she is entitled to.
Author IdiotInIowa Posted October 12, 2011 Author Posted October 12, 2011 (edited) I guess I just wanted to tell the truth for once. Hopefully it's the start of a open and honest marrige. She says she forgives me, but she is still in the dumps and wont kiss or hug me. This is our weeding week and she should be ecstatic, but instead she is hurt and emotionaly drained. It will take a long time for her to laugh and be happy with me. I don't know if she will ever trust me, but I am willing to work at it for years or whatever it takes. As for Bob, a part of me wants revenge, but another part of me says I should forgive him. I'm not super religeous, but I am a christian and I think this might be what God wanted. He might of interviened, Now that everything is on the table and I know how much she really means to me, we can have a new begining and hopefully a happy life together. Edited October 12, 2011 by IdiotInIowa
mike111 Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 I guess I just wanted to tell the truth for once. Hopefully it's the start of a open and honest marrige. She says she forgives me, but she is still in the dumps and wont kiss or hug me. This is our weeding week and she should be ecstatic, but instead she is hurt and emotionaly drained. It will take a long time for her to laugh and be happy with me. I don't know if she will ever trust me, but I am willing to work at it for years or whatever it takes. As for Bob, a part of me wants revenge, but another part of me says I should forgive him. I'm not super religeous, but I am a christian and I think this might be what God wanted. He might of interviened, Now that everything is on the table and I know how much she really means to me, we can have a new begining and hopefully a happy life together. I read your first post too. Dude, you really got yourself in a pickle. You need to keep your dick in your pants. And you need to lay off the booze. Seriously. Sheesh! That's the only suggestion I can give you. I totally won't be surprised if she cancels the wedding. Don't blame her if she does. Just bow out gracefully and don't lose anymore of the dignity you might have left.
KathyM Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 It's a good thing the truth came out before the wedding so your future wife is marrying with her eyes wide open. She has chosen to move past this and marry you. You are lucky. Most women wouldn't have. The way to make it up to her is to be the most loving, trustworthy husband you can be, and never ever give her reason to doubt your faithfulness again.
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