fnouri Posted May 17, 2004 Posted May 17, 2004 How do you let go of the one person on earth that owns your heart and your soul? We have been together for six years. Bad things and good things happened to us, and we forgave each other. But she decided that she wants to find herself, that she does not feel that "passion" toward me anymore, and she wants to move. For six months we talked, we went to therapy, we tried everything. I changed many things about me, not just for her, but because I knew that I wanted to change. But it was not enough. She fell in love with a married man, got rejected by him (after he slept with her), and still, came home to me and I wiped her tears away, comforted her, and told her that I will always love her. I am a grown man and I had relationships, and I know the difference between real love and infatuation. I know that she is the one for me. The fact of losing her drives me crazy, but I am happy that she is doing what she wants to do. She tells me that she loves me a great deal, but not as a lover. She said that I am the closest any human being has ever gotten to her, and that I will always be a part of her life. But I don't have her, and it hurts like I have never experienced before. Lately I think about taking my life. I don't see why I should go on. But I know that is wrong, and I know that I will be judged by my creator. There is nothing out there. There are plenty of women that I can date, but I am just oblivious to them. All I can think about is that she will come back to me, but I know that is not reality. So how do you do it? How do you move on? Any advise?
Fancy Posted May 17, 2004 Posted May 17, 2004 First of all, you two tried therapy together, now get some for yourself. If you're having suicidal thoughts, you need to talk to someone ASAP, not just someone from a message board. You need to determine why you feel so down about yourself that you're going to pine away and have thoughts of ending your life over a woman who has told you that she doesn't want to be with you in a romantic way anymore, that she's not attracted to you, and who's basically using you as a sounding board. There is life after this woman, but you're going to have to get out there and find it! You keep hanging around and allowing youself to be used by her. No wonder you're feeling so horrible! Seriously, please call a counselor and set up an appointment today.
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