Scirok Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 So I just wrote a couple of days ago wondering how I could still miss my ex bla blah. So I saw my doctor the other night and we talked about my ex this time and she suggested since I had feeling still for her and mostlikely would take her back that I find a mutual friend that I could trust and have them sit down and talk. So I messaged one of her friends and explained what was going on and told her I needed her not to say anything to my ex because it would only make things worse. I'm sure as u can realize from me making this thread it didn't go well. I asked her if she had heard anything of her missing me or regreting what she did or not happy with her new bf *** and this was the response I got no i kno what u mean and how u must feeel cuz she left u with no closure so i kno how u feel...but i did ask her if she missed u or anything about u and i feel bad telling u this but she said no..we were alone when i asked her and we were being serious and she said she hadnt been happy for the past year that she was with u..sorry =[ but i know how u feel cuz it was cold of hoiw she left u ya kno? but i wont tell her because i know she will tell *** and to tell u the truth i dont like *** but she is happy with him sad to say but yea..and ur not bothring me at all so if u need any more questions ansered let me kno nd dnt be afraid to ask =] So there it is the truth and it kills me inside to know how long we had been together and how close we were and she didn't care at all I'm sure the unhappy for a year thing is her way of making her self look good in the eyes of everyone cause she just up and left me. LS I just don't know what the next step is now it's been months and I still feel as if I'm at day one all over again I thought she would be back by now I've tried dating other sleeping with others etc and yet it's all fine and great but I find myself still wanting her back why? What's my next step is there anything else I can do? Or is the end of the road I thought she would see who this kid is by now but she hasn't maybe she never will not to knock the kid and I know all these things are not important but this kid didn't graduate highschool has no drivers licence no car basically no job hes from an extremely poor family and has a VERY bad perk/pill addiction from what his friends have told me he's doing between 200-225$ a day in pills. What hasn't she seen is wrong here I know it's the badboything blah blah but three months in and this isn't old yet seriously f*** me honestly
TheDovic Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 It's a rebound dude and here's how they work: - Ex meets someone - They hit it off really quickly and she forgets about you - The relationship develops really quickly (almost as if she's trying to get it to the comfort stage she had with you) and they are madly in love - Problems start to appear as the relationship is not built on solid foundations - They break up (as 90% of rebounds do) - She starts to think about the past and question her decision (doesn't mean she's coming back, but she's finally grieving) With regard to what her friend said, she probably meant it. But don't discount that when we break up, regardless if you're the dumper or dumpee your mood changes drastically from one day to the next, so she might have meant it (on that day!). I'm not trying to give you false hope here, I'm simply trying to give you a holistic picture. In terms of your healing, knowledge is power, so read the right books. I've read everything and the best for me were: - "Getting Past Your Breakup" by Susan Elliott - "How to break your addiction to a person" by Howard Halpern - "I can mend your broken heart" by Paul McKenna (comes with a free hypnosis cd which I am finding to be very powerful in reducing my feelings towards my ex when I listen to it everyday) Also keep posting on here. It's good to vent
redblack66 Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 It's a rebound dude and here's how they work: - Ex meets someone - They hit it off really quickly and she forgets about you - The relationship develops really quickly (almost as if she's trying to get it to the comfort stage she had with you) and they are madly in love - Problems start to appear as the relationship is not built on solid foundations In my case we did not have problems!!! All was good. Do you think she may think, wow, I left one with problems, but now I am leaving something that works so well, and the guy is fantastic.
Author Scirok Posted October 11, 2011 Author Posted October 11, 2011 Ya I've read Alot of rebounds etc and I know thats what this is. I'm just shocked it has lasted as long as It has especially with his drug problem. I know relationship are not based off gifts and spoiling someone etc but i took care of this girl more then you can understand everything she owns besides her car is mine or a gift of mine and her car is only still running and driving cause I worked on it so much. Sad I know but what am I gonna do I've heard from her mother that she's very bad off on money and is resulting to her opening and maxing credit cards it's just a sad day seeing someone you love fall flat on their face when they were so well off. I just wish you could see this girl from the way I see her and be as confused as I am she's a tiny little dorky girl innocent so I thought i just never thought of her like this but I alrdy know the answer to this but there's nothing else I can do right to get her to Come back with out her directly knowing? I just feel so desperate and I don't know why it's not like i can't get another girl I hurt can't get over her and how happy I was she wasn't like other girls and it wasn't a game with her I was very comfortable
Author Scirok Posted October 11, 2011 Author Posted October 11, 2011 And I'm sorry I forgot to add the other day I was at work and her mother works across the street from mine and I was out side sitting on the hood of my car near the road and she pulled out my direction and saw me and just stared at me with like a sad face the whole way by and thats what has thrown me back in this if she didn't care why did she continue To look at me if she's never been so happy to be away from me
Author Scirok Posted October 11, 2011 Author Posted October 11, 2011 If more of you could reflect and tell me what I should do sorry I feel needy this is the worst shape I've been in since the break up I guess I've had somekind of hope
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