MIK1000 Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 Probably the only good line from Godfather 3 and it sums up how I feel completely. Whenever I get a week where I feel I am really making progress and starting to move on, someone tells me something, or I find out something that opens the wounds and brings me back down. 1. After 1 Month NC, my Gf Returns from The American summer camp in which she dumped while there and started with another boy like a fortnight later. I don't expect to hear from her because she's with this new guy, who stays like 5 hours away from her but not even a week goes by and she sends me a drunk text at two in the morning saying "Hi How are you?". This confuses my emotions and makes me think that she's missing me and starting to want me back. 2. 5 days later I find out from a friend that her new BF is up staying with her and her mum and dad for the weekend. This comes as a major kick in the stones after I've been thinking all week that she's missing me, also disgusts me that her family let him stay. 3. A girl I know finds out that she has told all her close friends a distorted version of events which lead to our break up. Really relieving herself from the guilt. This really pisses me off as I want them to know how ****ty a thing she did. 4. My good friend texted me on saturday night telling me that he just saw my ex and the new guy in a club (the one that me and my friends go to every weekend). This makes me angry that she would take him to a place that there's a good chance my friends and i are going to be there. Luckily I wasn't. My friend tries to kick the new guys ass but gets thrown out by bouncers, this made me laugh at least and pleased with my mate. 5. My mum has a mutual friend of her mum, today my mum said that she was speaking to her mutual friend who was speaking to my ex's mum and the mum casually mentioned that we weren't going out anymore and she had a new BF that she met at the camp america. This makes me feel horrible, the fact that she's speaking so casually about something that caused me so much shame, as if she feels absolutely no shame for daughters actions. Every time i feel good, something bites me in the ass. Does anyone feel like they just want to be left alone? We don't want to hear about this stuff but at the same time maybe we need to in order to keep seeing the reality of the situation and make ourselves stronger, or is it just unnecessary pain and really ignorance is bliss?
immitable Posted October 11, 2011 Posted October 11, 2011 (edited) I feel sorry for her current guy, must say. The situation is the same like everybody elses pretty much, it seems like dumpers do whatever feels right after they have broke up. One thing is consistent though, all dumpers seem to be in a messed up state for months or even longer depending on the length of the relationship. I guess it is they go by their gut feeling or whatever. Don't worry what she is trying to do or does it shows basically that she still has feeings for you (you might be in a state where you want her back or not becuase she dumped you): Things like trying to make you jealous, rubbin it in etc. Wonder why do they do that?! So messed up.... Edited October 11, 2011 by immitable
Author MIK1000 Posted October 11, 2011 Author Posted October 11, 2011 I feel sorry for her current guy, must say. The situation is the same like everybody elses pretty much, it seems like dumpers do whatever feels right after they have broke up. One thing is consistent though, all dumpers seem to be in a messed up state for months or even longer depending on the length of the relationship. I guess it is they go by their gut feeling or whatever. Don't worry what she is trying to do or does it shows basically that she still has feeings for you (you might be in a state where you want her back or not becuase she dumped you): Things like trying to make you jealous, rubbin it in etc. Wonder why do they do that?! So messed up.... Yeah I've been trying to take the view of feeling sympathy for the current boyfriend (before i hated him and wanted to kick his ass) because in the end he is just another sucker and stands very little chance given it is long distance (I live round the corner from her). He is also not very attractive where as she is probably a 9/10 in the looks department. It makes me wonder why she goes for guys who are not in her league looks wise. She must feel like she doesn't get the same adoration and care off of better looking men and won't get the same level of care. You must be right that she is just doing what they wants to and going with her gut. But it seems bizarre because I thought she was such a caring person but apparently not if she's doing things deliberately to hurt me more and rub it in my face. My friend took the view that she's doing stuff like this to try and make the relationship look legitimate to people we both know so they don't think it was just some silly camp fling and she's a slut. Do i want her back? I thought i did but these past few days have got me really thinking about the sort of person she is, after being so insensitive to rub it in my face, lie to her friends about what happened ect. I'm thinking it wouldn't be a good idea to have her back now.
Recommended Posts